Anxiety and miscarriage

[Zazii]

I had a third miscarriage last week and I feel it deeply changed me: I am more anxious, I get easily upset, more sensitive than before, I am ruminating over everything. Did you experience that? How did you cope/get better? Thank you. I am taking time to rest and processing the loss, but I feel I am a different person who worries a lot more about everything

I’m so sorry for your losses, there’s no words; it’s the worst thing. I’ve always been anxious but I had a miscarriage this summer (my first pregnancy) and it made my anxiety much worse. Time, exercise and giving up alcohol has helped; as has seeing private counsellor which I appreciate is a privilege to afford but has helped. ❤️

@Zazii so sorry for your losses. I too have been in your position and it is perfectly normal to feel increased anxiety after trauma like this. After my third miscarriage I couldn't stop thinking / worrying something terrible would happen to my husband! Please consider counselling if you can and haven't already, it may help process the trauma and release some of the anxiety.

@PinkRoses1245 so sorry for your losses. I've recently experienced a MMC with my first pregnancy and have found it incredibly difficult to deal with.

Exercise has always helped me control my anxiety and manage my mental health, however I had to stop this in order to get pregnant in the first place as my periods had stopped for 3 months. I find I blame myself for this and wonder whether things would have been ok if I had looked after my body or waited for my periods to return before getting pregnant.

Following a MVA the consultant said I should stop exercise again and wait for my next period before trying again to let my body recover and give myself the best chance next time round.

I feel like I've lost my identity. I feel envious of people around me who have had successful pregnancies. I worry there's something wrong with me as it was my first pregnancy. I feel guilty for not telling my family about this.

I have good days and bad days but generally feel in a very dark place and I'm wishing time away so that I can try again. I'm not interested in doing anything else. I'm on the waiting list for therapy but I think it's going to take a while and I know I need to be patient with myself.

I guess I don't have any answers and can't imagine what you've been through with experiencing this three times, but just thought I'd share this in solidarity.

Many thanks for your kind message, may I ask how long it took to start feeling better?
Xx

@Zazii I'm still in the thick of it to be honest, I'm slowly getting slightly less emotional but a lot more anxious as I want to control the uncontrollables. I hope things get easier for you soon. Something that resonated with me is that it can't be fixed, only carried and I hope it gets easier with time.