Just told DH about early miscarriage...

[Catzy]

Had to do it over phone as DH is in Navy and on 7 mth deployment.

I began bleeding the day after I told him I was pregnant but had to wait til today to confirm miscarriage, even though I knew already I didn't want to tell DH til it was confirmed.

He phoned a couple of hours ago and I told him and since then I can't stop crying. I've actually been feeling guilty that I haven't been more upset and now it's the other extreme and I can't stop crying.

I'm so gutted, was much wanted.

oh so sorry for you. x

Catzy - I'm so sorry. What a horrid time for you, especially so with DH away. I wouldn't worry about the crying - I'm sure it's a very very normal delayed reaction. Do you have family or close friends nearby who you could talk to?

So sorry Catzy. I suspect you probably need to cry now - perhaps telling your DH has made it more "real" to you. You poor love. I'm so sorry for your loss.

I'm sorry for your loss. I can understand the delayed reaction though, I was in a simialr situation with a previous early miscarriage that I had 18mo ago. Be kind to yourself, eat chocolate and have a good cry. Talking it out with someone will help too.

So sorry for your loss. Talking to DH will have made it seem more real. It must be so difficult when he is away. You probably need a great big hug from him right now. What is the policy with the Navy - could DH get some leave to be with you, even for a couple of days?

You must look after yourself. Have you got close friends or family that you can go and have a chat/cry with?

I've got family and friends around me so I'm well supported.

DH is at sea at the moment so unlikely he will get leave. Spoke to him on satelite phone so not easy to speak. They do arrange to fly them back in an emergency but not sure this would qualify. Could really do with him here.

I feel silly because I tested as thought it would be nice to find out on Mothers day, if I hadn't tested would probably not have even known about it I would have thought it was a bad late period.

Chocolate was a good idea - thanks Daisy.

So sorry for your loss. Be kind to yourself.

I'm sure your DH is feeling really bad not being with you. You'll have to make do with hugs from friends until he gets home. Share some of that chocolate and have some wine (if that's your thing).

Here's hoping that your much wanted baby will arrive around nine months after DH gets home!

Don't feel silly about the Mothers Day test - it was a lovely thought and at least now you know that you CAN get pg. Hopefully the next time will be more successful.

Take care.

Oh Catzy so sorry to hear that. Not daft at all to test on Mothers' Day - can understand the sentiment.
Your reaction sounds very normal. When I had my first mc I just 'knew' but getting it confirmed at the scan and dh's reaction made me cry for ages.
How are you feeling physically?
When is DH due home, is it not for 7 more months?

Jack - am feeling fine physically - bled heavily for few days and had bad cramps but it's just like it never happened which makes it feel a bit unreal. Just sad now. DH is not home until July.

Jaamy - been trying to stay off the wine for obvious reasons but did have a glass last night which led to a few more and now a bad head, but needed to do it. Did toast to all those lost little ones out there. Life can be cruel.

Thank you everyone for the support. x

Anytime Catzy. Sadly there are lots of us on here that have gone through it so there will always be someone to talk to.
So sorry you can't see your dh til July.
You say you have people in RL that can support you. Have you told them what has happened? (understand you may not have if it was early days)
It does get easier - promise.

My family and close friends know so I have people to speak to about it. Thanks again