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My positive experience of a medical management for a miscarriage

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fl0ral · 02/10/2023 15:34

Before I went into hospital I trawled the internet and Mumsnet for forums on medical management stories and experiences, I found some good ones but I mainly found some absolutely horrifying ones which left me terrified, I just want to share my experiences on medical management of a missed miscarriage. This will be a long post sorry.

I had a missed miscarriage back in June, I miscarried at 11 weeks and the baby died at 8 weeks - I did it at home with no pain relief just pure pain and contractions for 7 hours, it was horrific and terrifying. 6 weeks later I found out I was pregnant again, I got to 6 weeks and started having cramps so went into hospital and they said to come back as couldn’t see anything, I went back a week later and nothing had grown they said they may be able to see a fetal pole but it’s so tiny and there was a sac but nothing else, I should have been 7 nearly 8 weeks at this point so it was a non viable pregnancy. Technically a ‘blighted ovum’ . This was on the Tuesday. We went over options and I came back to the hospital the Friday and had the first tablet (I can’t remember what it’s called I’m sorry it began with M) nothing happened after that I went home and was due to go to the bigger hospital Sunday morning at 10am, woke up Sunday with slight brown when I wiped but that’s it. I still had horrific sickness and nausea.

We got to the hospital at 9.30, on the gynae ward and me and my fiancé and mum was put into our own room with a toilet. The nurse who was going to be my nurse came round and explained we had to wait for the doctor to take bloods before we could start medication. The doctor came around 11.30 and took my bloods and put a needle in my arm incase I needed emergency medication. Once he did that I didn’t see him again I just dealt with the lovely nurses. My nurse came in & asked if I wanted to insert the 4 tablets vaginally or if I wanted her to do it. I asked her to do it as I was afraid I’d do it wrong. She put them in for me & then I had codeine and an anti sickness tablet straight away & just lay there for an hour waiting for it to start. Whilst we was waiting every few hours a nurse came round and checked my blood pressure and temp. I went to the toilet an hour later & realised I was bleeding, (I forgot to use the toilet pan to catch it so it went down the toilet!!) as everytime you wee they ask to put it in the toilet pan so they can inspect it you just have to call them on the buzzer and they’ll take it away. I was so worried about this but honestly everytime I called they was so lovely and sympathetic and just swiftly took it away. Within about 3 hours I had light cramps but nothing major, I had a Sunday dinner and went to the toilet again and passed what we think was the placenta (again no pain just some cramps) they came and took it away. Every half hour they was knocking the door seeing if we wanted to chat, if we was okay, had any questions or wanted a tea coffee water. They were amazing. Around 6 they brought me dinner & I asked my nurse when we’d be able to go as my bleeding had slowed and I wasn’t passing clots anymore, she spoke to the doctor and the doctor said they wanted me to have another 2 tablets vaginally and to stay another 4 hours just to be 100% everything had passed. At this point I last had pain medication at 4pm so I was expecting to have to take more after having more tablets. I had them vaginally around 7pm and waited but nothing happened just some more bleeding but I did not change my pad for 3 hours at this point. I did a wee around 10.55 and called the nurse and she checked and said we are good to go as I hadn’t passed tissue or clots for hours now. So by 11.15pm we was walking out the ward. We was there for around 14 hours all together, a long day but I knew I’d be scared doing it in the house because I’m a worrier and the last time I had a MC it was traumatic.

My experience was good, I’m really lucky that the pain was minimal as I was expecting the absolute worst from what I’ve read but it really good to show everyone is different, the nurses could not have been more kind, sympathetic and attentive. I’ve never stayed in hospital before so didn’t know what to expect, but I can’t fault any of them, they were all amazing. If anyone is going for medical management and is scared, it’s going to be okay and the nurses know exactly what they’re doing and how to help you! God forbid it happens to me again but if it did I’d opt to have it done again in hospital.

OP posts:
dreamersdown · 02/10/2023 15:39

Thank you for sharing, it’s really generous to share this experience at what must be a tricky and hard time for you xx

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fl0ral · 02/10/2023 20:32

@dreamersdown thank you, I just wanted to share that it isn't always going to be completely terrifying as I was so scared and feared the worst, where as it was the opposite!

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LookingforaRainbow90 · 11/10/2023 14:14

Hi, I'm sorry for your loss, I hope you're doing ok.

Currently going through an early miscarriage, I had opted for expectant but it's been a few weeks now and nothing seems to be happening so I think I may ask for medical. Just out of curiosity, can you ask for it to be medically managed in hospital? I was under the impression this was done at home. I'd much prefer it to be done in hospital, I'm terrified otherwise.

Thanks.

beetroot13 · 13/10/2023 09:36

@LookingforaRainbow90 hi, this is my post just NC. So when I went in for my chat about the medication, I asked if it would be at home or in hospital and the doctor said it's up to me so I opted for hospital. I like you felt better there with medical staff. I'm so sorry for your loss x

NinaB13 · 30/05/2024 00:58

fl0ral · 02/10/2023 15:34

Before I went into hospital I trawled the internet and Mumsnet for forums on medical management stories and experiences, I found some good ones but I mainly found some absolutely horrifying ones which left me terrified, I just want to share my experiences on medical management of a missed miscarriage. This will be a long post sorry.

I had a missed miscarriage back in June, I miscarried at 11 weeks and the baby died at 8 weeks - I did it at home with no pain relief just pure pain and contractions for 7 hours, it was horrific and terrifying. 6 weeks later I found out I was pregnant again, I got to 6 weeks and started having cramps so went into hospital and they said to come back as couldn’t see anything, I went back a week later and nothing had grown they said they may be able to see a fetal pole but it’s so tiny and there was a sac but nothing else, I should have been 7 nearly 8 weeks at this point so it was a non viable pregnancy. Technically a ‘blighted ovum’ . This was on the Tuesday. We went over options and I came back to the hospital the Friday and had the first tablet (I can’t remember what it’s called I’m sorry it began with M) nothing happened after that I went home and was due to go to the bigger hospital Sunday morning at 10am, woke up Sunday with slight brown when I wiped but that’s it. I still had horrific sickness and nausea.

We got to the hospital at 9.30, on the gynae ward and me and my fiancé and mum was put into our own room with a toilet. The nurse who was going to be my nurse came round and explained we had to wait for the doctor to take bloods before we could start medication. The doctor came around 11.30 and took my bloods and put a needle in my arm incase I needed emergency medication. Once he did that I didn’t see him again I just dealt with the lovely nurses. My nurse came in & asked if I wanted to insert the 4 tablets vaginally or if I wanted her to do it. I asked her to do it as I was afraid I’d do it wrong. She put them in for me & then I had codeine and an anti sickness tablet straight away & just lay there for an hour waiting for it to start. Whilst we was waiting every few hours a nurse came round and checked my blood pressure and temp. I went to the toilet an hour later & realised I was bleeding, (I forgot to use the toilet pan to catch it so it went down the toilet!!) as everytime you wee they ask to put it in the toilet pan so they can inspect it you just have to call them on the buzzer and they’ll take it away. I was so worried about this but honestly everytime I called they was so lovely and sympathetic and just swiftly took it away. Within about 3 hours I had light cramps but nothing major, I had a Sunday dinner and went to the toilet again and passed what we think was the placenta (again no pain just some cramps) they came and took it away. Every half hour they was knocking the door seeing if we wanted to chat, if we was okay, had any questions or wanted a tea coffee water. They were amazing. Around 6 they brought me dinner & I asked my nurse when we’d be able to go as my bleeding had slowed and I wasn’t passing clots anymore, she spoke to the doctor and the doctor said they wanted me to have another 2 tablets vaginally and to stay another 4 hours just to be 100% everything had passed. At this point I last had pain medication at 4pm so I was expecting to have to take more after having more tablets. I had them vaginally around 7pm and waited but nothing happened just some more bleeding but I did not change my pad for 3 hours at this point. I did a wee around 10.55 and called the nurse and she checked and said we are good to go as I hadn’t passed tissue or clots for hours now. So by 11.15pm we was walking out the ward. We was there for around 14 hours all together, a long day but I knew I’d be scared doing it in the house because I’m a worrier and the last time I had a MC it was traumatic.

My experience was good, I’m really lucky that the pain was minimal as I was expecting the absolute worst from what I’ve read but it really good to show everyone is different, the nurses could not have been more kind, sympathetic and attentive. I’ve never stayed in hospital before so didn’t know what to expect, but I can’t fault any of them, they were all amazing. If anyone is going for medical management and is scared, it’s going to be okay and the nurses know exactly what they’re doing and how to help you! God forbid it happens to me again but if it did I’d opt to have it done again in hospital.

Just wanted to say thank you for posting your story which I stumbled upon in the middle of the night after having been given medical management for my miscarriage. I had a missed miscarriage that was diagnosed at 11 weeks but the baby had stopped growing at 9 weeks. The hospital had suggested that I should allow things to pass naturally as I was already on day 3 of heavy bleeding and cramps at the point of diagnosis. However 3 weeks later I still hadn't passed the placenta despite passing heavy bleeding and clots. It was such a painful and drawn out process. Due to blood loss I was eventually sent to A&E and then admitted to hospital for medical management as described in your post. Your post helped to keep me calm as from other stories I had read, I was anticipating a horrendous 6 hours following the pills being given. However the process was much smoother than I had expected and far less painful than I had already been through with the 3 weeks prior when trying to pass things naturally. After 3 hours of period like cramps I had passed everything that I needed to and was able to relax and sleep. I so wish I had pushed for medical management at the beginning but that's hindsight. Just wanted to thank you for sharing your experience and I also wanted to add my own to this thread in case any other woman finds herself in a similar position. I found that the hospital downplayed the natural process (for me it was not at all similar to a period) and in some ways overplayed the potential discomfort that could come with the medical process and it filled me with anxiety (though I accept that this can be different for everyone). If you are reading this thread then please know that you're not alone. Pregnancy loss is the both mentality and physically one of the hardest things that a woman can experience. Take time for yourself and take care of yourself.

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