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How do you get past the guilt

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CrystalQueen87 · 13/09/2023 14:01

I had an ectopic pregnancy at almost 8 weeks in March resulting in emergency surgery to remove my right fallopian tube.
It was a horrible time and really traumatic, now we feel ready to start trying again but I'm absolutely terrified of it happening again.
Last night our DS 6 said out of the blue 'Mummy why am I the only one in the whole of my class who doesn't have a brother or a sister?'
It absolutely broke my heart and I haven't stopped thinking about it.
How do you get past the guilt of not being able to give your child a sibling?
And how best to explain to them that we would love to but it just hasn't worked out yet.

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Vero85 · 02/10/2023 02:45

I´m sure you´re very sad. I think you have enough on your plate, recovering from surgery. I don´t know how old your child is. She just needs to be loved by you and your health comes first. You have nothing to feel guilty about. Therapy might be a good idea, to work through your fears. Best of luck.

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