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Suppressing emotions after miscarriage

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Rolo22 · 01/09/2023 17:12

I had a miscarriage at five and a half weeks last week. Physically it all went very quickly and was confirmed with scan and pregnancy test only three days later. Going through the physical symptoms was distressing and I was overwhelmed with sadness and often tearful. I also felt so lonely and disconnected from my husband, who hadn't allowed himself to get emotionally invested in the pregnancy due to the risk of miscarriage and so has showed little emotion since it happened.

Since the symptoms have stopped I feel empty/numb. The sadness is still there somewhere and at times I really want to cry but I no longer can. I feel broken and cold for being how I am now emotionally. I wish I could cry again and let out my emotions. I still feel disconnected from my husband and struggle to reciprocate affection. Since it all happened so quickly it almost feels unreal that it happened at all (both pregnancy and miscarriage). I also constantly invalidate the situation due to it happening so early in the pregnancy. I feel I shouldn't feel bad when others have had it so much worse with later or more complex miscarriages.

Is this kind of reaction normal? How do I get through it?

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Hollycharlie · 01/09/2023 20:15

@Rolo22 hey, I had a mmc on 10/8. I still haven’t processed it. First I focused on getting the miscarriage out of me, as soon as I knew my baby wasn’t going to ever be here, i felt like I needed the baby to move on. Which sounds like the most awful thing. As soon as I stopped bleeding I have been trying to conceive to take my mind off the loss of the baby. I have a room full of baby things, prams , cots etc that I won’t open the door to as it makes me feel sick. I’ve totally disregarded my husbands feelings as if it didn’t matter to him, but I think it hit him hard. I don’t even think I’m ovulating based on my compulsive research of what’s went on and what to expect vs the sticks and what results they say. So no you’re not alone, we’re all fighting ways how to deal with this ourselves individually. I feel so strong and I’m a very strong person but several occasions I feel like crying . You’re not alone. Xxx

Rolo22 · 02/09/2023 20:55

Sorry to hear you're also struggling. I would also like to ttc asap in the hope it'll make things easier. I just desperately want to be pregnant. I'm just not in a place where I can right now with feeling so disconnected from my husband. Hopeful it'll get better soon.

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