Miscarriage at 10 weeks

[Sophie200]

Hi guys,

I've just found out today that at 10 weeks + 5 days I've miscarried.

There feels like no words to describe how I feel right now, it was my first and I feel like the world has just been taken from under my feet.

The worst part is that I've got to wait a week to go back for a re scan for them to confirm the loss before they can do anything, unless it passes naturally at home.

Truly devastated. Is anyone else going through the same? Just feel so alone and isolated

@Olivia199 thats great! The nurses said to me today likely the lubion is stopping me bleed so it may pass naturally once I’ve stopped. Not looking forward to it especially if it’s not till next week as I’m meant to be going on holiday with friends.

it’s just bad timing, I would much rather just getting it done asap seems silly having to prolong things. They were like oh there is an embryo there but no heartbeat and measuring tiny and not correct for 7 wks. So doubt i have any chance so why do I have to back 😭

Sorry to read your news @Ellenn. I was on progesterone pessaries and they prevented it happening naturally in the few weeks between no heartbeat and my surgery on Tues. The waiting between appts is maddening.

I’m glad your appt went well @Olivia199. I’m now 48 hours post surgery and still very happy I went down that route. I have waves of cramps & only very slight spotting. I also feel like my stomach is flatter although still quite puffy from ivf meds.

Hi @Sophie200 I’m very sorry for your loss. Sadly you’re not alone in this horrible situation. I found out on our 12 week scan on the 11th August that we had lost our first baby at 8+4.

I chose to go for an MVA which I would recommend. I have found it helpful to go for long walks and to try to keep myself busy/surrounding myself with close family but I find the grief comes in waves.

I have gone back into the office this week after 2 weeks off work as I personally found that I need the distraction, I was going down a dark hole last week with googling excessively and being cooped up at home alone after my partner returned to work.

I feel like only people who have experienced a loss truly understand how it feels, I’m not sure if you or another poster said this but I agree with feeling conflicted about ttc again, on one hand I’m desperate to try again so that I’m pregnant again, and on the other hand I’m terrified of this happening again. Sending lots of love to you at this time xx

@Ellenn - Yes I was still taking the progesterone until today, so I'm glad I'm booked tomorrow. Keen to stop them while also not wanting anything to happen. They wanted me on all meds between the first and second scan. Yeah I can absolutely understand that, they didn't tell me my measurements at first but their scan report stated it was a 6w5d sac, at 7+5 with no heartbeat. So I'm very glad I didn't know this before today as I'd have no doubt imagined a million happy endings being that a week out either side isn't always the end of the world. I mean, I did that anyway to be honest, but I'd had a hard time convincing myself so it wasn't another shock today. I think if I'd known the size before I would have thought there was a genuine chance.
My clinic said today that I was discussed at the team meeting and when I'm ready to try again (which currently feels like never on the basis that it's so bloody expensive) they'd swap out the type of luteal support I get. This probably made things feel worse because now it's the "could this have been prevented".
It's all just so shit!

@FiddleLeaf - Thank you, that's really reassuring. I think the sudden change from 8 days time to tomorrow has thrown me. Currently trying to organise myself and my daughter ready for her to go to nursery and then us both to be at mums. While also trying to make sure the house is tidy and on top of that, feeling nauseous as hell. Evenings are always worse for me so I am regretting leaving it!

How did your surgery go today @Olivia199 ?

@Sophie200 - it went okay thank you. I've just gotten back to my mums. I was last on the list so didn't go in until 4:30 but back on the ward by 6 and discharged by 6:45. Physically I feel fine, period pains and some bleeding but honestly the whole procedure wasn't a problem at all. Emotionally I found it quite tough and ended up going off to sleep very tearful and was the same when I woke up. Currently settling my DD for bed and wouldn't think I'd had anything done so that's a positive. How are you doing.

Has anyone ever had a scan told no heart beat and told to return incase they find one and there then was one I’m roughly 9 wks pregnant

So sorry you're in this situation @Mumof3babys - Personally, no. When I returned the heartbeat was still absent. But in my hours of googling I've come across the odd story of it. Normally this was due to the woman mistaking her dates and not being as far along as they think they are. For me that chance wasn't there as I'd had IVF and knew the exact dates.
I've got everything crossed for you.

I'm sorry to hear you went through this, OP. I came across your post as I recently had a completely unexpected miscarriage at 10 weeks + 4, a couple of weeks ago. I'm starting to process it, but I'm also still in shock. It was a week or so before our scan, so I have no idea how old the baby was when it ended - the miscarriage itself happened so suddenly in the middle of the night after a bit of spotting the afternoon before. I'm sorry to hear you went through something similar. I'm wondering how you are now - does it still feel as raw, or does time help? Do you plan too ttc again?