Looking for some support

[Whoisdis]

I'm currently having my first period post miscarriage (at 12 weeks measuring 7.5). Stupidly hoped I would catch in again without before my first period as you hear of people who do. Although we probably didn't dtd at the right time this month.

My youngest sister has been induced today and is currently in labour! Which is fantastic and I'm so looking forward to having a new little niece, but it's so hard emotionally right now. I'm so looking forward to meeting my new niece when she arrives but I'm worried I won't be able to keep happy for them whilst I'm there. Any words of advice?

My family are aware of the miscarriage and my sister has said she fully understands if I need time before seeing her which is amazing of her, but I don't want to wait!

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I had a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks last month, waiting for my period to come back now.

my sister in law is only 4 weeks ahead of where we should have been. My boyfriend went to see them today, and I didn't go because I wasn't emotionally ready to see her, and also because I wanted her to be able to talk excitedly with the family about her pregnancy (I didn't want them to feel awkward).

All I'd say is that you need to be honest with your emotions - you might feel one thing before you see the baby, but when you see it you might get other emotions. Just respect how you feel, be open and honest and don't force yourself to do anything you don't want to do x

Hi @Whoisdis
I'm so sorry about your miscarriage xx
It's really difficult i totally understand. From experience, when you see your niece you'll be so overwhelmed with love, honestly there's no feeling like it. Hoping you get your BFP really soon xx ❤

@Whoisdis
Sorry clicked too fast, there's no feeling like sharing a special moment with your sibling xx

@moosey89 I'm so sorry you're going through this too. It's so hard as like you say you don't want to take away from their excitement but it's wishing you weren't going through what you are and could be excited without the other feelings.

@Summer2424 Thanks for the response! So she gave birth early hours of Saturday morning, and I felt I needed to go as soon as she was up to visitors. I went with my mum and dad Saturday afternoon. I was first in the family to get to cuddle with my new little niece and although it was hard thinking I should be having this in less than 5 months, I'm so happy for her and proud of what she's done 😊

I’m sorry for your loss. I lost last year at 23+5 weeks and sometimes even now being around babies is hard and I’m currently 15 weeks pregnant so a lot of different thoughts and emotions going on. A family member had a baby shortly after our loss and even though I’m happy it is tremendously hard as you think ‘mine should have been like that’ I don’t think the pain ever goes but life does become liveable and you will get your family and pregnant when the time is right, wishing you all the best xx