Over a week’s wait for missed miscarriage treatment

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I found out last week I have had a missed miscarriage, it’s anembyronic so the sonographer couldn’t even tell me when it’d stopped developing, very very early. I was ‘12 weeks’ on Friday, so it’s potentially been not doing anything for a very (very) long time. They gave me the weekend to think of my options and I have decided to go the surgical route, I just need this process to be over with as I’ve carried a non developing pregnancy around for so long now without knowing.

The hospital rang me today and then can’t help me until next week, and I don’t even know when next week, this will mean it’ll be at least 10 days since they found the miscarriage to when they can help me. I started bleeding over the weekend and I’m worried about infection, surely 10+ days is too long for me to wait and puts me at risk of sepsis etc.? I don’t know what to do.

Have you told them about the bleeding? It can start off light then build up. It might be that you don't need surgical management or anything now. I've had 3 naturally occurring mc and one with medical management and only ever had to do pregnancy tests until they're negative.

It's awful they're making you wait so long. My medical management one made me furious as the embryo measured too small on the first epu scan that they insured I had to wait a week to confirm still no heartbeat. They wouldn't count the official scan from my ivf clinic a week prior to that that had shown a heartbeat as prof that it had stopped. I get why, but I was devastated at that extra wait. I just wanted to get on with it.

So sorry for your loss. I had to wait over a week for my surgical miscarriage treatment too. I started to spot on the day, should have been eleven weeks, but pregnancy was only measuring 5. I would let them know you've had some bleeding as it might mean things are starting to happen naturally.

So sorry for your loss OP.

My hospital had a one week wait for the surgical option so I went for medical as I just wanted it over with. Started the next day. I found the discomfort very bearable and was lucky that all passed quickly.

I hope all goes OK for you x

@sundayneptune Did your spotting come and go? I started bleeding last Wednesday and had a scan that said their was no heartbeat. Had the odd bit of blood over the weekend but since then it’s stopped, is that normal? I’ve had two MC before and the bleeding was much much heavier by this point.

Sending all my love to you! I had to wait 2 weeks for my surgical management and it was the hardest 2 weeks of my life, it’s been 8 weeks since I found out and I had to go for medical management last Friday as I still had retained product so my journey still isn’t over. X

Hi @Pringle2223 I only started spotting on the morning I had surgical management so can't give you any more info sorry. I did bleed a fair bit post surgery, and ended up with retained tissue so needed further treatment which eventually worked 3 months after surgery!

@Pringle2223 I’m sorry for your loss. Spotting today may be after the pressure of the scan, I guess? Or it may be the start of spontaneous miscarriage. Time will tell. My hospital had a 10 day wait for surgery so I went for medical management. In the end I had retained products and two rounds of surgery after that, so it didn’t save me any time after all.

I understand your worries about infection. You’re a long way from sepsis, but if you have any symptoms - fever, smelly discharge - call them back. There will be space for emergency treatments, but currently you’re not an emergency I’m afraid, as awful as it is for you. Good luck - I hope it’s sorted as quickly and smoothly as it can be. And solidarity from all of us here…

@Pringle2223 I'm so sorry for your loss. I spotted for 10 days between the day my baby's heart stopped and my surgery. It was a mix of brown, pink and red with some of what they describe as 'coffee grounds' consistency. It never really got heavier or lighter, and I had no cramps.

@moosey89 bless you ❤️ I don’t know if to wait for it to do it naturally as it seems to be trying or just go for the surgery. I keep thinking it’s getting going properly and then it tails off again. X

@moosey89 also when they scanned me they said it hadn’t grown since 9 weeks which is nearly 3 weeks ago now so you would think something would have happened naturally by now x

I had a missed miscarriage and chose to let it pass naturally. They said it could be up to two weeks for that to happen, so I don't think the delay you're experiencing is putting your health at risk. Although I completely understand the mental anguish. If you are worried about infection monitor your temperature. If you have an infection your temperature will go up.
Sending hugs.

@Pringle2223 it's such a difficult choice to make. I chose surgical management for both my MMCs because I wanted it over and done with to be honest. I didn't want to keep waiting and seeing (especially as with my second I'd known for 3 weeks it wasn't going to end well as I had a bad scan at 7 weeks so it was a question of when not if). There's no right or wrong decision, it's what feels the right way for you x