Missed miscarriage at 12 weeks

[Neve09]

Hi, I’m just looking for some advice if possible. I found out I was pregnant in June and from the get go I felt something wasn’t quite right, my line tests were fairly faint but then I did digitals and they progressed up to 3+ as and when I expected. I also had (and still do) so many food aversion, tiredness, headaches, spots, I have a 3 year old and I’d say at times I felt worse in the last few weeks than I did when pregnant with them.

So whilst I had a hunch things weren’t right, all these external symptoms kind of made me think I was maybe being overly cautious. However today we went for our 12 week scan and they said they could barely see anything, she didn’t go into detail really but advised it basically hasn’t grown for a very long time, an anembryonic(?) pregnancy I think she called it. I’m now wondering why I have felt so awful these last few months. Even today I have aversions to food I would previously eat every day.

I’ve been given the weekend to think about my options, I would prefer waiting it out and doing it ‘naturally’ as the nurse today called it, but I’m worried my body will just hold onto it. They offered me surgical option via local anaesthesia, I just wanted to check if anyone has had this? They said there was an increased risk in damage to the womb lining which has worried me.

I feel numb but also like I knew this would happen, I had only told my partner about missed miscarriages last night as I just had such a hunch. I’ve had no bleeding at all. I don’t know if this sounds incredibly toxic and awful of me but all I can think about when I could be pregnant again because I already miss it.

i found out at the 12 week scan (was actually 13 weeks) it had stopped growing at 8 weeks. I had surgery, I had an older nurse and she kind of hinted that that’s what she recommended, it was all done really quickly and I had no issues, I fell pregnant about a year later and hadn’t been trying. I have 3 close friends that all took the medical option and all 3 had different horrible experiences, so although only anecdotal I would always go for the surgical option. Sorry that this is happening to you x

I’m very sorry this has happened to you. I’ve had both a pregnancy where the baby didn’t develop and I found out at a scan at 10 weeks and a mmc where I found out at the 12 week scan that the baby died a few days earlier. For the first I waited it out and had a natural miscarriage. For the second I was offered the surgery but didn’t like the thought of being put to sleep unnecessarily (was thinking about my toddler DS) and requested the procedure done while awake, they just numbed my cervix.

Both times I wanted to get pregnant again so I can understand how you feel, it’s not wrong to want that. I personally preferred to take action and know when it would be over. The two week’s waiting for the natural miscarriage was a really horrible time. All that matters is what you would prefer and how you feel about both options. Talk it over with your partner and do what you feel would be kindest on yourself.

I also had morning sickness for days if not a couple of weeks after the first pregnancy passed naturally. The pregnancy symptoms are caused by hormones and it takes a while for those levels to drop, I was still testing positive on pregnancy tests two weeks later and eventually got a negative after three weeks so again still having symptoms is normal even though it’s upsetting. Again I’m sorry this is happening to you, it’s such a shitty time.

I had a MMC diagnosed last week, stopped growing around 8+5. I went for the surgery under local anaesthetic yesterday (MVA) and all went fine, uncomfortable during the procedure and some mild cramping for a few hours afterwards but now absolutely fine. I didn’t like the idea of having to pass a lot of tissue, blood etc. at home, which is why I went for a surgical option, but it may be if your pregnancy was anembryonic then there is less tissue to be shed.

I will say that when I spoke to the gynaecologist they said they prefer interventions for MMCs because you don’t know if/when the body will miscarry by itself. It sounds like there hasn’t been growth for several weeks in your case so possibly worth exploring your options? The miscarriage association website has lots of useful advice.

4 weeks have passed since my mmc. I have had my negative test. I have bled every day for 4 weeks. Today along with bleeding i got a jelly blob of mucus like when you ovulate. I am soo confused how can I ovulate and bleed at the same time?

I let it go naturally but I was already bleeding. 12 week scan, MMC estimated at 8 weeks gestation. It was not a comfortable experience, quite scary and painful at times especially when a lot of blood and tissue passed at once.

Personally if I'd known better I would've had surgical management, but the midwives didn't really advise me which was better, there was lots of insistence that I should think and choose but I was not in the headspace to research pros and cons. I had the miscarriage at home.

I had a missed miscarriage, found out at 12weeks, it had stopped growing at 11weeks. Wasn’t quite ready to go through managed options so let it go naturally. But my body held on to it for another month and no development so opted for the tablet form management. Physically miscarried then 2days later, bled for 2weeks, negative hpt 3x weeks later and ovulated 2weeks after that. I wouldn’t do it different, was good for me to take that time and process it.