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Tattoo we had for our baby

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midnights0 · 04/08/2023 13:56

I just wanted to show the tattoo me and my fiancé got for our baby. We had the tattoo a month ago now, we got the tattoo on the day we was suppose to be going for our gender scan, instead we got a tattoo in our baby's memory. I went for a scan at 11+6, after some extremely light brown spotting, that was on the Saturday, I had my scan on Monday and they told us there was no heartbeat and baby had stopped growing st 8 weeks and 3 days. We had seen our sweet babies heartbeat 4 weeks earlier beating away with their little nubs for arms and legs. It was kind of like false hope to see our baby there never in a million years did we think this would happen after seeing the heartbeat, but unfortunately it does happen. To say it was a shock is an understatement. We cried and cried and cried, we went home and I miscarried that night (on my 27th birthday). There has been a lot of crying & pain, but I can think about our baby now without bursting into tears - or I can tell people what happened without crying. Altho when I go into the nursery (it has a crib, all the clothes we bought) it is like a stab in the chest. We get married in a few months so are putting TTC off until after the wedding now. I'm so sorry to anyone who's been through this. This is the song we have dedicated to our baby - bigger than the whole sky - Taylor Swift. It really does capture the feelings when going through a miscarriage, when I first heard the song I thought I pray I never have to relate to this song, and a few months later I did and here I am with the lyrics tattooed on me. Sorry for such a long post.

Tattoo we had for our baby
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greenmarsupial · 04/08/2023 14:01

Sorry for your loss, it's lovely that you and your DP are such a team and supporting each other. I'm glad you've found a way to memorialise your baby and hope you go on to find happiness.

Pjmasksonrepeat · 04/08/2023 14:02

A beautiful tribute. So sorry you've gone through this Flowers

midnights0 · 04/08/2023 14:04

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Summer2424 · 04/08/2023 14:05

Hi @midnights0 i'm so sorry for your loss 😔
The tattoos are beautiful ❤
Wishing you and your fiance an amazing wedding and a life time of happiness xx

midnights0 · 04/08/2023 14:07

@greenmarsupial @Pjmasksonrepeat thank you both ❤️ I'm very lucky to have my fiancé, he did not leave my side once and still doesn't. The night I miscarried I think I'd have died without him there, he cleaned up my vomit, diarrhoea (tmi sorry) he changed my pads, made a bed in the bathroom with me and lied with me, fanned me and put cold flannels on all over, held me through each contraction, cleaned my blood. Honestly I'm so lucky to have had him through this. I read posts of partners not being there and feel so sad for these ladies doing it alone 😭 he is one in a million!

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midnights0 · 04/08/2023 14:07

@Summer2424 hi, thank you so much for your lovely comment ❤️

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MNetcurtains · 04/08/2023 15:06

midnights0 · 04/08/2023 14:07

@greenmarsupial @Pjmasksonrepeat thank you both ❤️ I'm very lucky to have my fiancé, he did not leave my side once and still doesn't. The night I miscarried I think I'd have died without him there, he cleaned up my vomit, diarrhoea (tmi sorry) he changed my pads, made a bed in the bathroom with me and lied with me, fanned me and put cold flannels on all over, held me through each contraction, cleaned my blood. Honestly I'm so lucky to have had him through this. I read posts of partners not being there and feel so sad for these ladies doing it alone 😭 he is one in a million!

So sorry for your loss. He sounds wonderful.

Islamic32 · 05/08/2023 01:16

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LaviniasBigBloomers · 05/08/2023 01:31

God love you and keep you both. I hope you continue to heal together and I love your tattoos.

UnknownFemale01 · 05/08/2023 01:34

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Really? Just uncalled for. They are beautiful OP, sorry for your loss ❤️

Miragelifeguard · 05/08/2023 01:39

So sorry for your loss. Your tattoos are beautiful

DelHenney · 05/08/2023 01:40

Oh, op, your post has made me cry, for reading about the loss of your beloved baby but also to see the strength of your love for each other. It is when you reached your lowest ebb, that your partner was right there with you. I wish you both much love and future happiness together 🌺

MillicentTrilbyHiggins · 05/08/2023 01:44

I'm sorry for your loss. The tattoos are lovely.

midnights0 · 05/08/2023 10:39

@UnknownFemale01 the comment has been deleted now, what did it say? Just curious 🧐

Thank you so much everyone for your lovely comments and wishes, everyone is so supportive and lovely ❤️

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OHVanessaShanessaJenkins · 05/08/2023 10:46

Lovely, just lovely.

I have thought for a long time about having a tattoo to mark my 7 babies lost to miscarriage.
Butterflies or teeny tiny flowers.

I have no tattoos, so it’s a major decision but I just feel that they are all lost, gone, remembered only by me and my DH.

So, yours are a lovely way to remember.

BarbaraV · 05/08/2023 11:00

That poster has been trolling all over the boards. I didn't see it but I would ignore x

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