Hi there,
Wondering if anyone has any advice about how to move forward/can relate.
I have just had a 4th miscarriage (3rd one was in March, 2nd in 2020 and 1st in 2016). I am very lucky, I have two daughters (5 and almost 2). I desperately wanted a third, I would have preferred that we already had one in between our existing kids but of course you can’t give birth to a 3 year old! So we thought we’d try for another baby and have had two miscarriages in the last 5 months.
I don’t know how to survive the emotional pain. I know I’m so lucky to have what I have. But it is not able to override the immense sadness about what I’ve lost. If we were to try again, I’d likely be 37 when it was born (and my husband 41) and although I know that’s not so crazy these days, it just isn’t what I wanted. This is no judgement to anyone who has had babies at this age, it’s just not what I wanted for our family. My parents are pretty young and I love that they are only just entering their 60s at this point.
Does anyone have any experience with deciding not to try again and ending the childbearing years on a loss? It feels so painful to think that it’s over and that we won’t have another baby. I don’t know how to move forward. I don’t really know anyone who has gone through loss, certainly not multiple losses. All my friends have babies when they decide to have babies. I have booked some therapy sessions so I’m hoping they will help, but in the meantime, reaching out to others who may have some comforting words.