Is it normal to feel this way?

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I’m 10 weeks yesterday. Only it turned out at private scan on Tuesday that I’m not and had mmc - barely even a small fetal pole so my body had thought it was pregnant for a long time I think - maybe 4 or 5 weeks but they wouldn’t give me a gestation. EPU confirmed this yesterday but said I couldn’t have any management until I had waited 10 days and been rescanned due to the size which feels cruel. I’ve been spotting on and off all week. Today I have been spotting on and off. Had some cramping but not too bad. Now suddenly I feel awful. I can’t stop shaking and I feel sick. Some hot flushes too but temp is normal I think but I feel hot. My stomach feels weird. Sick and empty at the same time. Is this things starting? Or an emotional response maybe? My partner thought it was anxiety and maybe it is but it feels so odd.

I would call EPU again and let them know, you could be developing an infection and chances are that if you have not passed anything in 4/5 weeks you are likely going to need some intervention.. hope you’re okay I had a miscarriage at 16 weeks and delivered the baby but I had some retained products 10 days later and needed surgical management to ‘remove retained product of conception’ awful phrase.

Thank you so much for the reply. I’m feeling much better today so I think it was the stress causing it and potentially blood sugars. Still spotting/very very light bleeding. This has been going on a week already. I’m worried it’s just going to stay like this. Do you know how long it takes from spotting starting? I’ve been spotting since last Monday. Some very mild cramping. It does seem to stop and start is that normal? Thank you

That is an awful phrase. I’m sorry that happened to you. It’s a really crap club :(

I had almost exactly the same experience- found out at a private scan that I had had a MMC and then EPU asked me to be rescanned and then come back a week later. I didn’t pass naturally so had to have the medical management. I had the pessaries which worked quite quickly but there was a lot of blood and it was painful, which I hadn’t expected.

Unfortunately in my next pregnancy I had a diagnosis of trisomy 21 and opted for the surgical termination this time which I found much less painful and physically much easier. If you do need medical management it’s worth looking at the surgical option - it’s easier mentally and physically.

I am so sorry - the waiting is the worst part as you’re in a horrible limbo. Definitely ask EPU if there’s anything you’re concerned about and they may be able to see you sooner.

@Iusedtobedontcall thank you. Yes this is what I wanted - I’ve got surgery booked until Tuesday as I didn’t feel I could do the trauma of passing the pregnancy at home. But it looks like my body probably has other ideas. I’ve been spotting on and off since last Monday. Started having some mild cramps. It’s just going on forever which is hard. I don’t think I’ll last until my scan next Monday (7th). Also worried this might just carry on forever. I think it’s getting ‘heavier’ but it’s still only spotting so hard to say. I feel like it’ll never be over. EPU were very clear they won’t see me earlier than Monday as per their policy unless I need to see them for pain relief or because the bleeding gets too heavy. They were very kind but their policy feels pretty cruel. I don’t know how long this will go on for.

@Iusedtobedontcall - I’m so sorry you’ve been through this. It’s such a hard experience. I hope you get/got your rainbow baby xx

Thank you. It hasn’t happened yet but I may be too old now and I’ve 3 dc so I’m grateful for that. My Dd would have been due in September and you never forget. Sending love to you.