Missed Miscarriage

[Beth98]

Hi everyone,
I found out today that I’ve had a missed miscarriage. I am in on Wednesday to do the pill version of the medical miscarriage. Has anyone else experienced this and would you mind sharing your experience of it- good and bad?

Also, how long did it take you to get pregnant again and did the next pregnancy succeed?

Thanks in advance!

I'm so sorry your going through this the same thing happened to me two weeks ago, I was 8 weeks along, I took one dose of tablets I had strong period pains bowel movements and bleeding but nothing major I went back and scan showed baby still there took second dose of tablets and had worse pains than just period I assume something similar to early labour it wasn’t nice but strong co-codamol, ibuprofen and hot water bottle helped a lot I had more bleeding but scan showed baby still there, I booked in to d&c next day but when I went home that evening I passed the baby at home had sharp pains down low and knew what what coming, was able to take baby in to Hosp for testing to see if they can work out why this happened, I hope this isn’t too much info but it’s better to be prepared. I don’t regret not going for d&c as I feel this way my mind processed what had happened fully instead of waking up and it all being over, I hope things aren’t too bad for you sending hugs at this horrendous time it will get easier it just takes a while

Hi,

I'm so sorry to read of your loss. I wanted to stop and say that my experience of medical management was fairly straightforward - pain/cramping after 20 minutes and then I passed the pregnancy a few hours later. I bled heavily for a 3 days or so but nothing a heavy period pad couldn't hold. The bleeding tapered off over 5-6 days.

I was pregnant 2 cycles later. Sadly it ended in Miscarriage again but I am being looked into for various reasons - the chances of a recurrent miscarriage are much lower.

Look after yourself and do what feels right each day - you're not alone with miscarriage and there are plenty of us here to listen if you need x

So sorry for your loss, I had a MMC back in December, medical management twice and didn't work and had to get d&c, pregnant again come February and now 23 weeks. Wishing you all the luck and hope you can get over next few weeks ok, take care of yourself

Dear Beth98,

So sorry for your loss. It is such an awful time, and I am going through this as well.

I also discovered I had a missed miscarriage on Saturday (at 12W). Very sad and upsetting and we are processing this slowly. I wanted to have the surgical procedure but the doctor’s strike meant I am having the medicine instead to avoid delay.

Yesterday I took the first pill, and tomorrow I am having the second pill and stay in hospital so I can have extra painkillers and peace of mind.

Good luck today Beth.

So sorry for your loss. Mine was 13 months ago and I ended up needing medical and surgical management. I hope the tablets have worked for you.
I just wanted to share that we waited for a cycle due to needing surgery and got pregnant the next cycle and my 12 week old is currently asleep on me. It felt unbelievable this time last year, but just take things a day at a time - it will get easier and there’s no reason you won’t have a successful pregnancy in the future.

Hi. I hope this is ok for me to post in here. I have recently found out I have had a missed miscarriage. I should be 9 weeks but when I went for a scan there was no growth and heartbeat had stopped from the scan I had at 7 weeks. I still haven’t passed naturally and have an appointment to go back Monday. I opted for the pill but thinking over it, I heard she mentioned a pessary too and I can’t do these. I always struggle. Has anyone had d&c and does this affect anything or will it affect me getting pregnant again? Sorry for the questions. We would like to try again as soon as we can, I just feel like we need this to help us move forward. I feel silly mentioning that and I know certain people who we are close with would call us stupid for even trying again so soon.

Hi @Dani46 sorry for your loss, I had medical management and it didn't work twice, I then had d&c and it was no problem at all, if I ever was unlucky enough to go through it again I'd ask straight for d&c, recover my was brilliant and bleeding minimal, I got pregnant again within 2 cycles and I'm currently 23 weeks gone. Hoping all goes well for you x

@38andtrying thank you! Can I ask how long roughly you bleed for and is it heavy? Sorry for the questions. Also, would my partner be able to stay with me while I am there? I’m going to call them tomorrow and tell them I’ve changed my mind and want the d&c xx

That’s also great news you conceived again after 2 cycles. It really does give me hope xx

Sorry to hear about your loss - it's tough x

It's been years now but I had a miscarriage at 38 followed by a missed miscarriage at 39. I already had 2 DC following a fertility struggle. I opted for a D&C both times. I just wanted it over when I knew there wasn't going to be a baby.

The process was ok - did find the midwives a little insensitive tbh but they deal with this on a daily basis so I suppose they get a bit immune to it. I was told a D&C kind of clears everything out to put it crudely, and you can be more fertile for a time after.

It did take 7 months after the first loss to conceive again, but I didn't have heavy bleeding as I did after the second one. That time I conceived the first cycle we tried, just shy of my 40th and the result is 20 now!

Hope my experience helps someone out there x

@Dani46 I think I bled for just under 2 weeks and no it wasn't heavy at all, it was really light, just like last few days of a normal period, apparently bleeding is minimal after a d&c compared to going natural, id opt for it again as I say. The worst part for me was the emotional side.

In 38 as well and very worried about conceiving again so was delighted when I did but super anxious, I know its only anecdotal but my doctor told me most women's first pregnancy fails, whether they know they've had a miscarriage or not. You're more likely to become pregnant again also within next few months and have a healthy pregnancy than not.

My honest advice is spare yourself the wait and get the d&c done, you are in for an emotional few weeks and best get it done and over with especially if you want to try again soon.

In regards your partner being with you, yes, my husband never left my side the whole time, I needed the support and you will too.

@adriftinadenofvipers my experience with midwives totally different, I was only 8 weeks and they were so sensitive and lovely, I think so much has moved on and they have special training now for miscarriages at all stages, a lovely midwife even sat with me for a while so I could ask questions about trying again etc my doctor also when checking on me was super empathetic, I was researching miscarriages after and see they all get training now on emotional side of things, terrible what women had to go through even as recently as 20 years ago, I hope my experience is now the norm.

Thank you everyone for all your help! Xx

So, I called the epu today and told them I have changed my mind and want a d&c. I told them I still haven’t bled yet too. I still have to wait till Monday and have another scan, even though I know and they also know that the baby is no longer there. Because I was less than 7mm I think she said? I just want to get it over with now, I am just so sad about the fact I know I have lost it yet I still have to wait around. Has anyone else had to do this?

I'm glad to hear that things have changed because they needed to. My miscarriages were just over 20 years ago and I found the attitude in general was a little dismissive, very much "shit happens, get on with it". One consultant obs told me following my second that, because mc is so common, the odds of having 2 in a row were quite high!!

Fortunately my own obs was more empathetic but then I was paying him!!

@Dani46 I had to wait for a further scan too when I had my mmc, but when I had that, my obs had me in and I had the D&C done the same day. I totally understand. I just wanted it over too. Will be thinking of you x

Thank you 🤍

Just so people are aware. My medical miscarriage failed even after 6 oral tablets. I'm now scheduled for an MVA tomorrow. Frustrated, but I'm just hoping that the MVA works 🤞🏻

@Beth98 I’m so sorry! Fingers crossed it all goes well tomorrow. Keep us updated xxx

@Beth98 sorry to hear this, the same happened to me, but if it is any consolation looking back now i am glad it did, the D&C was quick, painless and recovery was basically zero, i am glad now i didn't out myself through the emotional and physical torture of a physical miscarriage. Take care of yourself x

@Beth98 I’m so sorry to hear that. I hope it goes ok for you today.

I experienced a miscarriage a few years ago. Like some of the other posters I opted for the MVA straight away as waiting for things to happen naturally didn’t occur.

It was very straightforward, the staff were really supportive and I only had paracetamol, diazepam and local anaesthetic. My mum couldn’t come in, but was in the waiting room and was allowed to sit with me on the ward too.

There was still some bleeding afterwards, but it was like a heavy period and stopped after a day or two later. The only thing I found out was that the medicine I had to take before the procedure caused diarrhoea a few hours after taking it. No one warned me about that and it made for a difficult
hours drive home

I've explained it all here: Medically managed miscarriage experience www.mumsnet.com/Talk/miscarriage/4854209-medically-managed-miscarriage-experience

Hope this helps people when making decisions and thank you to everyone who helped me 💗 time to focus on moving on now x

Thank you @Beth98 , I hope you are coping well. Xx

Thank you for sharing your experiences, and your other post too @Beth98

I found out today I’ve had a MMC, measuring 7+4 instead of 10+2, which is a real shock and you’re right, it’s so hard to work out what to do (the suggestion of waiting 30 days to see if it passes naturally isn’t for me, to be honest, and I didn’t get much more info beyond call my EPU). So this has been really helpful x

I'm so sorry 💔 please see the link I shared which explains my whole experience and process! I truly hope it all goes as well as it can for you, so you can process it 💗