Missed miscarriage - what to do with myself?!

[PlateSpinner23]

I'm in a right pickle this morning. Been off work since last Tuesday, first with an awful allergy rash (don't know what to), then found out on Thurs evening that we've had a missed miscarriage. Sound have been 8.5wks, but my baby stopped growing at 6.

Off work yesterday as had to go to EPU, they confirmed what private scan saw last week. Now have a two week wait either for medical/surgical management, or for my body to sort things naturally.

I tried to go back to work this morning, which unhelpfully meant joining (via a bad virtual connection) my first ever team managers meeting, halfway through a two day agenda. I lasted 25 minutes barely keeping it together before I had to message my boss and tell her I had to go. Did a big ugly cry, and she's now messaged me and told me to take the rest of this week off (she knows what's happened). I think it's probably the right thing, but I just don't know what to do with myself?! I'm not ill... I could be writing emails but I know my head's all over the place... I don't want to wallow in my own misery at home... Is there a way to get over this and get my head straight?!.... I just don't know what to do, mentally or literally :-(

Thank you xx

Sorry for your loss.

When it happened to me I took two weeks off work and just did things I enjoyed, and to get on top of all of the life admin that gets put off. It sounds awful to say but I don’t think my mental health has ever been better than after two weeks of dedicated “self care” and just getting organised.

I’m so sorry this has happened you it is honestly the most heart breaking thing, forget about work allow yourself time to reflect and do anything that helps even a little, I found out I had a missed miscarriage about week and a half ago it’s been terrible mentally but I have found watching videos on you tube sharing their own stories has helped as you feel less alone, as no one shared stories like that in real life with me and just allow yourself to cry it all out and eat all the crap you want, sending love :(

When I had a miscarriage it was the most helpless I have ever felt. I have never cried so much in my life, it was continuous for several days.

Big hugs 💐

Please give yourself the time you need to grieve. Take the time off. Relax, do things you love, cry if you need to cry, don't feel guilty if you laugh or smile or have fun.
Eventually the pain lessens and you'll start to come out the otherside.

I always say the pain of grief is your body growing your heart to be big enough for more love.

It's just awful, there's nothing like it. I found it therapeutic doing things that didn't involve having to engage with others, like swimming and going to the cinema.

I extend my deepest condolences for your loss. I experienced a miscarriage myself, which began on Friday, and it has been an incredibly painful and difficult experience. I am currently taking time off from work, and it has truly helped me in the grieving process. I am gradually starting to feel better, and I sincerely hope that you also find healing and solace. Remember to take it easy and prioritize self-care during this challenging time. Sending lots of love ❤️

Thank you for all your lovely messages. Going to try to get out of the house for most of tomorrow, make the most of having use of our car for once 👍