Help ... I need comfort ...

[DarnaWantsABaby]

I miscarried and my SIL asked for details on how it happened. I told her I was going to get back to her later because I had to get ready for work. She then contacted my husband who told her I had been reckless and stressing at work. He never said this to me. Ever. I just spoke to my SIL and she revealed this and my heart hurts, my eyes are burning with tears, and I don't know how to let it all out. Please help ... 😭😭😭😭😭

I'm so sorry he's said this about you. I hope you know that it's very unlikely to be anything you have done that has caused this miscarriage and its just one of those awful things that happen!

Have you spoken with him about how it's made you feel?

Oh you poor love. I promise you it is hugely unlikely you did anything to cause this. And talk to your dp; these things often sound much worse in translation.

I'm yet to talk about it with him. I feel so awful. I'm trying to move past it all and hearing this has set me back

I’m so sorry that you have had to deal with this on top of the pain of miscarriage. It is not your fault that you had a miscarriage.
Miscarriages are usually caused by chromosome problems in the developing baby, or placenta or other issues (none of which you are likely to have any impact on by being stressed or working hard). You don’t deserve to be spoken about in such an insensitive way when you are dealing with the pain of the miscarriage itself. You deserve support and understanding and your SIL is way out of line. Speak to your husband when you feel strong enough to do so. Your SIL has been out of line and may have even pushed or interrogated him into saying what he said. Either way, for the relationship to heal (as well as yourself) you should talk to him. Don’t be afraid to keep those who are hurting you out of your life at this vulnerable time, and seek out the company of those who support you instead.