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Don't know if I lose my baby

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Rosebel · 03/07/2023 05:54

Had a feeling it might have been pregnant last week. Unexpected and unplanned. Was planning to do a test today but I started bleeding really heavily about 3 o clock this morning and passed a clot about an hour ago.
Feel sick and don't know what to do. I'm in so much pain. DH had a vasectomy two years ago so I don't even know if I was pregnant but I've had miscarriages before and this feels the same.
My stomach hurts and I'm bleeding and crying but I'm too scared to wake DH incase he thinks I have been cheating on him
Feels such a mess.

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PaigeMatthews · 03/07/2023 06:09

What day in your cycle are you and what is your usual cycle length?

MaggieBsBoat · 03/07/2023 06:13

Why would you need to say anything to your husband? Treat it as you would a normal period surely.
That said if you’ve had a miscarriage it would probably still show up in a test at this point so do one and of it is positive then speak with him as he needs to get tested that his tubes haven’t grown back together.
If it’s negative, just carry on…

timegoingtooquickly · 03/07/2023 06:15

@MaggieBsBoat I'd want my husband to have his vasectomy checked!!

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Rosebel · 03/07/2023 06:28

I don't need to tell him but he'll be able to see I'm upset. I'm in so much pain

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MaggieBsBoat · 06/07/2023 06:22

Just checking in. Is all ok @Rosebel ?

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Rosebel · 06/07/2023 21:22

They confirmed it was a miscarriage. I tried going in to work yesterday but must have overdone it as I was in so much pain this morning I could barely walk.
Emotionally I feel numb. I feel desperately sad and lost but I can't cry. All I want to do is sit and cuddle my 3 year old but typical 3 year old and doesn't want cuddles from mum, wants to run around.
I tried to talk to DH but he hates serious conversation about this. Manager at work said I can talk to her but I'm so aware of her being my boss, not friend.

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timegoingtooquickly · 07/07/2023 18:57

Rosebel · 06/07/2023 21:22

They confirmed it was a miscarriage. I tried going in to work yesterday but must have overdone it as I was in so much pain this morning I could barely walk.
Emotionally I feel numb. I feel desperately sad and lost but I can't cry. All I want to do is sit and cuddle my 3 year old but typical 3 year old and doesn't want cuddles from mum, wants to run around.
I tried to talk to DH but he hates serious conversation about this. Manager at work said I can talk to her but I'm so aware of her being my boss, not friend.

Sorry for your loss.
You need to have the conversation with dh as the vasectomy hasn't worked. If you don't want a baby then you need to start using protection again

jamiegirlove · 07/07/2023 19:02

Sorry about it.. I know you can carry on..

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Rosebel · 08/07/2023 18:35

DH knows he has made an appointment for next week to see GP. It's just that he won't tell me how he feels. He says he knows I didn't cheat on him but seems distant and don't think he'll belive it wasn't his baby.
3 year old has been handful today, with me, hitting me, trying to grab my glasses and crying when I do things for him. His routine has been out this week. No nursery as I've been in and out of hospital and obviously dad has been here the whole time.
Just doesn't feel like a good day. Is it going to get better?

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