Miscarriage June 2023

[stressshead]

Hi
I no unfortunately there are lots of miscarriage threads but I thought I'd start one for anyone that has had one this month as to not feel so alone.
My miscarriage stared on the 8th I had a scan and epu and had to go back 10 days later for them to measure growth by this time my bleeding on had got worse and I new I had a miscarriage non the less waited and on 20th it was Confirmed I had lost our baby 😢💔

I no it's not quite a week since was confirmed but I feel very numb still like the lights are on but no one's home sometimes
I still cry more in private I hold it in when I'm around ppl and then when alone I let it out

Does anyone else feel like this?
It's so hard I can't put into words how to describe how I feel but I do feel like I have to be the normal me around ppl when I feel anything but myself

I'm so sorry xx

I’m soo sorry. I’m going through the same thing right now. I’ve just found out i’ve miscarried at 8 weeks on 24.06.2023, the worst day of my life.
Had another scan today which confirmed a miscarriage. Have been crying day and night and had no sleep. Just had a home miscarriage and flashed it in toilet I think as something came out of me and gone through a toilet hole! This made things even worse! (( heartbroken

I feel so guilty that I couldn’t save and protect him

Hello ladies, I am so sorry for your losses. Experienced an early miscarriage at 6 weeks on 23rd June, and 5 days on I feel just as broken. Sending hugs xx

I miscarried on the 20th also 😔@stressshead today has been so hard for me. Sending you some love. I have that numb feeling but I can't cry or talk to anyone because I feel like I'm a burden. I always get told I'm a strong person but trying to fake that I'm OK everyday is draining me

@Heartbrokenmam @Unexpectedlysinglemum @happydaysss sending you all some love too ❤❤

That is a really common feeling, but this unfair and horrible thing that's happened is not your fault in any way shape or form and that little soul knows how much you loved him or her xxxx

Don't fake it, let yourself cry, write down your feelings and phone a kind friend or a counselling helpline to get it all out. Cry as much as you need to and treat yourself like you would your very best friend if this happened to her xxx

Thank you ladies for your support and warm words. Unexpectedlysinglemum, stressshead, happydayss, MsLaidBack. Unfortunately there is so much for us woman to go through.. Sending you all my love and best wishes. I’m taking a couple of weeks off from work to recover physically and emotionally. ❤️

Ladies, also I was wondering how old are you.. You don’t need to answer if you don’t feel comfortable.. I’m 39 and wondering if this is an age thing..

I'm 36, 37 in 2 weeks (would have been 12 weeks on my birthday but now that'll be 3 weeks after my loss and I have to check for a negative result 😔). I'm shocked at how quickly I actually got pregnant in the first place, we were only trying for 6 months. Thought my age and me having fibroids would make it harder.

I wish I'd taken some time off. I went back to work the next day thinking it would distract me but I was so wrong

I actually got a text from the bereavement nurse from the hospital yesterday. Think I'm going to arrange to speak with her and see if that helps. Think because I hold my tears in so much while I'm at work by the time I'm home I'm physically and mentally exhausted and just fall asleep. I don't even eat properly anymore

Sorry to hear( But there is a big positive here! You got pregnant so fast! And apparently we are most fertile in the next 1-6 month after miscarriage.. It took me around 1.5 year to conceive. I also have fibroids (not sure if this caused a miscarriage..

Also my doctor said to do a scan again and check for fibroids. Usually fibroids shrink after miscarriage. Which is another positive news.

Hi all, sorry to read all your posts and equally as sad to be on this thread :(

I was around 5-6 weeks and started spotting Monday 19th, with heavy bleeding the following two days and back to spotting for the final fourth day. Went to EPU on 27th where a scan confirmed no pregnancy tissue left and all had been passed, HCG was at 20. I’ve done a Boots strip test today and it’s still very faintly positive.

Me and OH have been DTD every few days since the bleeding stopped, in the hope that we won’t miss any potential ovulation as I’m not testing OPKs as I find it adds too much stress.

Sorry to hear.. i wish you all the best and will pray for us all..❤️

@Heartbrokenmam I should see my GP and see if I can get a referral to get my fibroids checked before trying again.

@DHB so sorry you've had to join us. wish you all the luck. I was tracking my ovulation by just using my period app (been using the same one for years) I've thought about trying the strips but they just sound stressful and I already become obsessive!

When I was trying to conceive it got to the point I was only I was only DTD around ovulation time and the one time we actually DTD and I'd put baby making aside is when we got lucky.

I really want to try again but I'm so scared! I know its only been 2 weeks since our loss, but the other day the guilt was overwhelming when I actually wanted to be intimate with my partner. He's so supportive and understanding and said we don't have to rush until I'm ready.

But I'm so confused!! Part of me is ready and the other isn't

@MsLaidBack I did try the tests one month but it just made me stressed and obsessive and the next month, I just relaxed and we conceived :) Obviously no happy ending for that one though.

It’s only been one week for us, I stopped bleeding pretty quickly though and we’ve DTD a few times but today, I’ve started with really light brown spotting and a stitch like feeling (technically I’m CD14 if counting the MC bleed as CD1 so not sure what’s going on or whether DTD was a bit too deep haha).

I think it’s really normal to feel the guilt and I completely get it, you’ve just got to be ready in yourself haven’t you. You’ll know when it’s right and you’ll just have to go with the flow :)

Hopefully this is our month for sticky ones x

@DHB same here I literally bled for 1 week. I had my scan on the 20th and within an hour of me leaving the hospital I'd passed most of the pregnancy, it hadn't even broken up. It was so hard I just wanted to take my baby out the toilet 😓(TMI I know I'm sorry).

Think what's making it harder is I would have been 12 weeks next Tuesday which is my birthday 💔.

I broke down yesterday because my OH said he "needs to go pick up that child of mine" (DS from a previous relationship). I know it wasn't intentional but it hurt so much.

That's what I was unsure about do we count our 1st day of bleeding as our 1st day of our period?? I was only spotting lightly for 2 says and didn't start bleeding fully until the day I passed everything so I'm a bit confused 😅

@MsLaidBack Oh goodness I am so sorry, that sounds pretty traumatic. Thankfully I was not as far along as you so didn’t have to deal with it looking like a baby :(

Oh no I know exactly what you mean; and pregnancy announcements, people pregnant in public, people with newborns in pupil, it makes me so jealous and upset.

Well from reading on here, it seems that for the purpose of tracking, CD1 is the first day of bleeding so that’s what I’ve gone with. No idea if I’ll even ovulate this month, seems 50/50 of people ovulating after their miscarriage bleed and people who don’t so just a waiting game :( x

Well, I’ve just had my negative HCG so onto this month and hopefully I will ovulate in the next week or so, I was originally due to ovulate at the end of this week if going back CD1 as MC bleed x

@DHB I might check for my negative HCG over the weekend and then try and enjoy my birthday lol

I'm shocked but kind of happy. today is 2 weeks since my loss and I actually feel OK

No tears so far and haven't got highly emotional. I've actually felt ready to have the conversation with my OH about trying again

@DHB thank you for sharing with me I know how hard it can be ❤

Is anyone else suffering with pain in their legs? I can barely describe it but all around my groin & thigh on the right side is so damn sore after MC. Having googled it seems some others experience this but no real reason why xx

Hi. I had exactly same pain last week. It lasted for about 10 days. It has gone now and Im not in pain anymore but I’m still spotting and it’s been more than 2 weeks since I miscarried.