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Miscarriage at 11 weeks, I passed the sac and baby intact

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ovulationleavesmetired · 21/06/2023 08:23

Not quite sure why I'm sharing this but I want to.
Firstly, I'm sad...but mainly angry. Pissed off actually as I had told myself and my husband that this was our last attempt.
I'm 42 and this is not my first miscarriage so over the last 11 weeks I have been quite guarded about the entire pregnancy, pessimistic I guess.
I'm very much a realist and I know it's age related.

Anyway,
After my previous miscarriage where I spent a lot of time passing blood and clots on the toilet, I decided that I didn't want that to be the case this time.
As detached as I am, it felt wrong to just flush my baby away.

And miraculously I caught it!
I held this little intact sac in my hands, filled with fluid and with a tiny baby floating inside.
It's brought me so much peace being able to see it.

I know this may sound morbid to some but I hope there are some out there that can understand where I am coming from.

I feel like it was a little miracle in horrible circumstances.

OP posts:
Crankleberry · 21/06/2023 08:26

Oh I’m so sorry for your loss, @ovulationleavesmetired. That doesn’t sound at all morbid to me; it all sounds incredibly loving. How wonderful to be able to meet the baby you had been carrying and hopefully, eventually that feel like a more complete and peaceful ending. Sending lots of love

LulooLemon · 21/06/2023 09:01

Flowers Sending you lots of love OP

SnookyPook · 21/06/2023 09:29

Agree with PP - not morbid at all. An act of love. I hope it brought you a little peace amongst your grief. Sending lots of love and hugs. 💕

Raindropsarefallingheavily · 21/06/2023 09:34

So sorry for your loss op.. Same thing happened to me when I was 4 days off 45. . Supposed to have been 10 weeks but no hb at scan and no growth since 8 weeks.. After actual labour pains I passed an intact foetus in the sac. I was at work and the lady lit her coal fire. Gave me a box and some tissues and left me in private. Felt very calm and collected tbh as i said my goodbyes. Felt bad dh couldn't be there.. Didn't ttc again.

ZebraDilemma · 21/06/2023 09:41

So sorry for your loss OP 💐

Bobbin1905 · 26/06/2023 19:58

Hello

Sorry for your loss. Just wanted to say I totally get it. I'm 42 and lost my baby at 9 w 3d in May. I also was able to catch the sac. I held it and told the baby to fly high. It also gave me peace as I got to say goodbye.

Take care

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