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Passed sac 4 days after miscarriage?

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midnights0 · 16/06/2023 22:35

Hi, I had a missed miscarriage confirmed Monday just gone, I went for a 12 week scan (private as had brown spotting the day before) and baby died at 8+3. That night I started actively miscarrying, the pain was the worst thing I've ever felt in my life and I was bleeding, it was constant pain for about 5 hours. No massive clots though. I went to hospital the next day who scanned me and said they couldn't see baby there to date me and that it had started breaking down, I said could I have passed baby/sac already without big clots and they said possibly as everyone is different and it may have broken down completely when coming out (I did sit on toilet a lot so may have passed some then but no visible clots on pads). Anyway 4 days later I've had cramps and bleeding, although not to heavy and cramps have been manageable. Fast forward to literally half hour ago, I was sitting on the toilet with my knees up, I haven't had a poo since the night of the miscarriage and was trying to get my bowels moving, I was pushing & something came out of my vagina and into the toilet bowl, I had a look and it was really quite big, it was bloody but a bit grey, I didn't hurt to come out. Was this my baby, the sac, placenta? I don't know whether I need to go back to hosp. It didn't hurt, I just felt it coming out. And I flushed it, I didn't want to look incase I seen a tiny baby and I couldn't handle that. Its just really scared me, I thought I had passed everything. Has anyone else had this, it's been 4 days since the original miscarriage so I didn't know you could pass large things so much later on. Thank you

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BuzzieBo · 16/06/2023 22:56

Hello,

I'm so sorry your going through this.

I found out I had a MMC at 11 weeks. I think I actually 'passed' the sac around 3 days later. It sounds similar to what you are describing.

If your worried though, there's no reason you can't go get checked over.

midnights0 · 16/06/2023 22:59

@BuzzieBo I'm sorry this happened to you too. Thank you for the reply. My cramps really seem to have stopped now, so not sure if it's over? I'm bleeding quite lightly. I may ring the midwives tomorrow if i get more pain, and see what they say! It really freaked me out 😬

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fuckmyuteruslining · 17/06/2023 18:48

I'm very sorry for your loss. It sounds like that was the miscarriage completing with the sac coming away. That is a natural process and your cervix should close and bleeding gradually stop. If it gets heavier then you should seek medical advice. It's perfectly ok to have flushed the loo. That's what happens to many people when miscarrying.

midnights0 · 17/06/2023 22:40

@fuckmyuteruslining hello, since I posted this my cramps have pretty much come to a complete stop. No pain what so ever. Bled a tiny bit last night but nothing today, only when I wipe. So I'm assuming it's nearly over. I cried last night because I felt so guilty for flushing it down the toilet, me and my partner was looking at it in the toilet and made the decision together that we didn't want to see it. But now I feel absolutely awful about this, but probably, seeing it would have made me worse. It's all so hard.

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BuzzieBo · 17/06/2023 22:59

Please don't feel bad about flushing the loo. I did exactly the same and I'm sure most people do. What's the alternative?
It's a really difficult time and your emotions will be up and down, please don't be so hard on yourself and feel guilty for a completely natural/normal response to something so difficult x

midnights0 · 17/06/2023 23:01

@BuzzieBo I maybe thought afterwards when I was in bed maybe I should have fished it out and examined it but logically thinking that probably would have been more traumatic for me and my partner to see so I guess I know it's for the best even if I do feel awful about it

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fuckmyuteruslining · 18/06/2023 09:09

Given that the baby died at 8 weeks and this happened passed 12 there would likely have been nothing tangible to mourn and the process would have been terribly traumatic for both of you. You did the best thing for yourself at the time. Be kind to yourself. Do you have a garden? You could buy a plant to mark this baby. Ask on here for some robust suggestions but roses are good. You can get ones that flower all summer or even one that flowers just once now in June. If you move house you can move the rose too.
It sounds like physically you are on the right road now. That's good.

midnights0 · 18/06/2023 10:15

@fuckmyuteruslining I have been looking for a nice plant but nothing has caught my eye yet or seemed special enough for my baby, will keep on looking though. We are both getting tattoos next month with lyrics on 'you were bigger than the whole sky' and the date ❤️ we are back in work today (work at same place) so hoping it will be a distraction for us

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