Surgical management of missed miscarriage

[SunSparkle]

Just found out today at our 12 week scan that baby stopped growing at 6 weeks. It’s come as a huge shock as I’ve had no bleeding or cramping and severe nausea and vomiting.

I’ve an appointment at EPAU to discuss surgical management. I think I want to have it under local rather than general anaesthetic as I’ve a two year old toddler at home I’d like to be home for asap.

can anyone share their experience of surgical management with me so I know what to expect?

So sorry to hear you had such a rough time 😔 I'm sure the seizures were 'just' stress if you haven't had them before.

Still so sorry for your loss OP.

You don't have to decide anything now- you will be knackered and sad and just need to focus on looking after yourself and hopefully having others tend to you a little?

@SunSparkle oh gosh I am so sorry to hear about your experience! It sounds like you were really unlucky for the seizures to happen at that moment. Especially with all the posters saying that surgical is fine etc…. What an awful unexpected spanner in the works. Are they following up on the cause for the seizures?

I also lost a lot of blood with the medical management and was quite anaemic afterwards. If you feel very tired and can hear blood whooshing in your ears (this w was what I had) then defo get your iron levels checked out. Having said that I do hope your levels are fine and you’re on the road to recovery!

I totally hear you. I really want another one but I am so done with pregnancy. I find it so hard with all the nausea etc, add in the miscarriages and I’m just like so done!! I’ve given myself a couple of months off due to the blood tests I’m having so will revisit the idea in September I think…. My DD is 3 and I am also worried about age gap. But she has actually made great friends with an 8 year old on our street and seeing them play together is very cute. So this has helped with my worries about the age gap!

big big hugs! May you continue to heal this weekend xxxxxx

I’ve just had a surgical removal of miscarriage and wanted to share my experience in hope to help anyone that needs it with my experience, this is my first miscarriage after 4 beautiful healthy children, I found out at my supposedly 12 week scan that my baby hadn’t developed and was only measuring at about 5 weeks I had still been having pregnancy symptoms but had very slight spotting, I was asked in what way I would like to deal with the miscarriage I chose to opt for surgical management the thought of waiting to pass my baby naturally or medication just didn’t feel like the right option for me I don’t think I could of dealt with it all at home.
So after making my decision I was booked in the next morning for my surgery I arrived at the hospital at 7.30 am and went for my surgery just after 9am it was so reassuring I didn’t have to wait to long the staff the hospital were amazing and I feel like that is still an understatement to describe them they made me feel so at ease and constantly reassuring me and making sure I was ok they had all the time to talk me through it and my feelings and were so patient with me, before my surgery I was asked about how I would like to deal with the remains of my baby (my baby being the words I chose to use as although it was tiny it was still my baby) there was a few choices for me but I chose a cremation not far from the hospital and was told that it would be buried in a memorial flower garden with other babies who didn’t make it either I was told I can visit and even know when the cremation would take place although I have opted not to know this I don’t think my heart could take it. I thought this was a lovely thing to offer and made me feel that my baby did matter, after surgery I was taken back to a private hospital room to recover and be monitored thankfully all had gone well and I was recovering well, my nurse I can’t thank her enough for being so thoughtful and kind offered to refer me to a bereavement midwife and gave me phone numbers to contact if I needed, when time to leave I was offered the most beautiful memory box for my baby that I will always treasure it contained lovely messages,a candle, butterfly trinkets, a wooden star to engrave, 2 beautiful knitted teddies with a knitted blanket and a lovely white knitted butterfly the box smelt of lavender and was just such a lovely thing to receive. I know this is such a long post but I hope it brings help and comfort to somebody going through the same or similar experience, That are still our baby’s and they did matter👼🦋