Grief just keeps hitting me

[EstieGreenwood]

Every time I think the pain of my loss is subsiding a bit, it comes back stronger than ever at the most random times. I just feel like I’m never going to get over this.

Hey, I'm so sorry your going through this. I can totally relate. At times after my miscarriage I felt completely overwhelmed by my emotions. Its been 3 months for me and I still feed sad/angry at times.
I think we just need to give ourselves the time and space to feel how we feel and ride the waves.
I'm not sure there's a time you will decide 'your over it'. You will never forget, but with time it will become easier and you'll feel stronger.

I completely get where you’re coming from. Im a month after and still get these emotions to. A good cry helps me still!
keep strong 🤍

Thank you! I’m sorry for your loss. Crying does help - I also found this slightly cheesy but beautiful meditation that causes me to WEEP but is cathartic:

I just can’t stop thinking ‘I would be x weeks today.’ An acquaintance got pregnant around the same time and seeing her growing belly has caused some REAL ugly feelings. I just feel robbed.

So sorry you’re going through this hell, too. You’re right - the passing of time and allowing the emotions to come is all we have.

I completely understand the 'Ugly' feelings...I felt them too. Made me feel like a bad person and I couldn't tell anyone how I truly felt for fear of being judged.
I think it's totally normal and all part of the process - my jealously when my best friend told me she was pregnant a couple of weeks after my miscarriage was a lot!! Still is at times.

So sorry for your loss.

Sorry to hear you are going though this, it is especially hard after the joy first felt on the news of pregnancy. My wife suffered a similar situation and it is still not easy to talk about and whilst we cried and spoke about it it has put a mental burden on her especially that has affected her and our relationship in the following years. I write this no to scare you but as advice to feel emotional, don't fear the sadness, talk about your grief and please please seek help from support groups and counselling services. You will find there are many others who have experienced your pain and can empathise all that you are going through. I hope you reach a better place as time goes on and happier times are soon on your horizon.

That feeling is horrible, my bother and sister in law have just announced their pregnant, would of been 3 weeks behind me. I’m like you thinking, I should be this many weeks now. I also keep thinking, when will it be my time! Hopefully the dark cloud doesn’t last too much longer! X

Currently going through this too i lost my baby in Feb and struggling atm every bump baby & newborn cry hits like a knife atm

I'm so sorry for your loss. Know how you feel. It does get better but I'm still grieving my first mmc. Time does make it easier but for me it doesn't go away completely. Sending massive hugs and love ❤️ x