Hi,
Posting from the depths of a really dark day so please be kind. I miscarried our IVF baby on Saturday night.
I'm struggling to understand why? Everything was going exactly as it should, because of IVF it was so intensely monitored.
Embryo that was transfered had thawed beautifully and had already expanded before it was put in me. Embryologist was thrilled with it. I tested positive at 6pd5dt (so 11DPO), the lines progressed beautifully, official test day was lovely, then I had two BETAs just less 48hrs apart, they more than doubled (371 to 838), and then the very next day I started cramping and then bleeding. In A&E my BETA was done again, only 36hrs after the last, and it was 1076 so it had increased but not by much... within an hour or so I then passed the baby/sac/product of conception. Then less than 12hrs later, my BETA was 447 and miscarriage confirmed. Bleeding has all but finished, lasted less than 12hrs start to finish.
I don't understand what went wrong. The clinic were thrilled on Friday to give us the doubling result, told us that it was great news and to relax until our scan in a couple of weeks. There's info online that says a doubling BETA leads to 92% ongoing pregnancy... yet within 24hrs all was lost?
I've taken all my medication perfectly, including 400mg x 3 progesterone a day. The EPU don't test for progesterone but also said that's enough regardless of if my natural levels were low. I haven't done bedrest but I have been more slow and steady, although on Friday after my bloods I did sports day with my toddler, I didn't do much running but maybe it was too much activity? I've taken all my supplements the same except I stopped the beetroot juice after 5 days, but that was all the study said. I've done acupuncture the whole way through. I had an orgasm on Friday, no penetrative sex but the clinic did say that was fine if we had. I haven't swum or had a bath, the clinic said not to. I haven't eaten perfectly healthily but I've not smoked or taken drugs or drunk any alcohol. I have a septate uterus but I have previously carried a healthy pregnancy and on the scan EPU did, the implantation 'area' that he could see wasn't on the septum but on the uterine wall.
I am finding it hard to understand how it can have all been progressing perfectly and then suddenly it just ejected itself, so quickly. What caused it to die? Because it was alive and hormonally doing even better than it needed to be, less than 36hrs before. Maybe even less than that, as it had increased, just not enough before the big BETA fall. In a normal, unmonitored pregnancy, I guess you don't know the point it stopped, but it seems unfathomable to me that it was doing beautifully and then died within such a short time.
My husband has taken my daughter to nursery and I am just crying and crying. I need to know what I did to lose our baby, because what if we do IVF again and it was something I did and we lose another one? We've loved this embryo since we made it over three years ago and for it to just fall out of me and now be in a box in my bedside table is a pain that's indescribable.