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Medical management experience please

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user6078472 · 26/05/2023 08:09

Having the first tablet today and then will go back on Sunday. Feeling quite nervous as read some horror stories. Just wanted to hear as many as possible and hopefully some reassuring ones. Although I do need honesty so I am prepared.
The thought of surgery scares me although I know I could still end up needing it.

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supersonicspeed · 26/05/2023 08:27

Hello, really sorry for your loss op.
I don't know how far you are. I was approximately 6-8 weeks. It wasn't horror but it wasn't pleasant.
I took the pill and went to work. I had no pain but I took paracetamol all day just in case as I didn't want to feel anything and I don't know whether it was related to the stress or the pill itself but I nearly fainted on the way home.
Next day, I didn't want to stay home, so went back to work and in the afternoon I felt a sudden wetness. It was a massive clot and lots of blood soaking my trousers. Luckily it was winter and I had a long coat, so could just cover it and go home home, so prepare yourself for that! This was the worst part as it felt really physical.
I think I lost the embrio naturally before that (which I didn't realise what it was and I threw it away, which I still can't stop thinking about) so I didn't see anything in the blood.
I'm so sorry you are going through this. But what helped me was thinking that the embrio wasn't developing correctly and the nature took its course.
What I didn't know at the time is that miscarriages are very common and it doesn't mean you won't be able to have heathy children soon.
I had a miscarriage and conceived a healthy child after three months of that and then had a chemical pregnancy followed by another heathy child.
I wish you all the best and send you big warm hugs! 💐

user6078472 · 26/05/2023 09:42

Thank you @supersonicspeed my situation sounds very similar to you I am also about 8 weeks and the embryo was not developing. Glad to hear you went on to have two healthy DC!

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Oxalis00 · 26/05/2023 11:25

So sorry you find yourself here @user6078472 I had medical management 4 weeks ago. It seems the experience varies massively from person to person, so all those horror stories don’t say anything about how it will be for you.

I didn’t find it painful at all, and barely felt any cramping, just a sort of brightness in the womb. I was shocked by how long it went on for (9 hours of regular, every 30 mins or so, gushes) and how much stuff came out (lumps of what looked like liver, which I guess is uterus lining). But see, PP’s experience is so different - one significant gush by the sounds of it. So you just don’t know.

I read online the action of the second pills, and pain, peaks at 2.5-4 hours, so I found it helpful to aim for that. Worth taking ibuprofen and paracetamol preemptively, but it sounds like you’re going into hospital so they may manage that. Just make yourself as comfortable as possible, and know that you will get through it. Good luck xx

Alloveragain3 · 26/05/2023 11:50

I'm so sorry for your loss OP.

I found out at 7.5 weeks that baby hadn't developed past 6 weeks.

At 8.5 weeks I took the medical management option. I was nervous as I'd read it could be painful, but the D&C wasn't available until the following week and I was worried about possible scarring from the procedure.

Ultimately, I'm very glad I went the medical route.

I took paracetamol pre-emptively but never got bad pain. It was like a heavy period but not as painful as periods I usually get.

I started to bleed in the morning and had passed what I think was the sac by 7pm.

staystill · 26/05/2023 11:59

Hi @user6078472, I wanted to reply to you as last week I spent a lot of time looking on forums for experiences of medical management.

I found out I'd had a missed miscarriage a couple of weeks ago at 8 weeks and that the heartbeat/growth had stopped at 7 wks 2 days. Initially I chose expectant management to see if it would happen naturally, but after nearly two weeks of waiting I got in touch with the EPAU last Thursday and said I wanted the medical management.

I'd read so many stories of people having horrible experiences and was quite scared about taking the pills. But my experience was a lot lot better than I had expected and read about. I wanted to share with you to reassure you that not everyone has a really awful time with it.

I took the first mifepristone pill this Monday, I had a few cramps on and off, but not much happened, a tiny bit of brown spotting but very minimal. Then I went in on Wednesday for the misoprostol. Taking the second lot of tablets I actually found was one of the more emotional parts of the whole experience, it just had a strange finality to it even though I knew there was no hope that the pregnancy was viable.

I took the tablets at 11:30am on Wednesday morning and started to get some cramps on the way home (so probably within 30 mins of taking the tablets). These were slightly more intense than my normal period pains, but definitely bearable.

When I got home nothing much happened for a while apart from intermittent cramping, so I had some lunch (I think the anti nausea meds made me starving!) then at around 2pm I felt some bleeding start. There was some more cramping and back pain with this, but not a huge amount of blood. I went to the loo to check a couple more times to check and there was blood in the toilet, but not a huge amount more on the pad.

I decided to go for a walk with my husband, which I knew would take about 45 mins. While out on the walk the cramps got more intense, a kind of radiating/pulsing pain every 5 mins or so. I felt like they were painful enough to stop and take a deep breath, but I hadn't taken any extra painkillers (on top of the ibuprofen suppository they give you at the clinic). I could feel that there was a bit more blood coming out every now and then.

At around 3:30pm when we got back from the walk I felt a bit more blood come out as we got out the car, so I went straight to the loo when we got inside to check. There was blood, but it was totally manageable and hadn't filled the pad. This was when I felt something 'fall out' into into the toilet, it wasn't painful at all. I got it out of the toilet (sorry, TMI), as I wanted to know what it was and it was some sort of clot/tissue around 4 inches. I didn't look at it again, just wrapped it in some paper in case I needed to show it to the hospital.

I then sat on the sofa expecting that to be the start of things escalating... I had quite painful lower back pain for about 1.5hrs so took 2 paracetamol. After an hour or so more the cramping and back pain were very minimal and the bleeding had reduced a lot. This was the point I started to worry that the misoprostal had stopped working. The EPAU were closed by that point, so I hoped for something more to start happening again and carried on my evening / went to bed.

I was hoping that the bleeding would escalate again in the night, as I had read in the experience of others, but I actually slept really well and woke up yesterday morning with some cramping and bleeding, but nothing very intense.

As I hadn't had much more bleeding and wanted to speak to the EPAU I knew I needed to look at what had come out yesterday. I braced myself and had a closer look and could see it was what I think they would describe as the 'full pregnancy' with fluid filled sac etc (didn't want to add too much detail on exactly what this looked like in case it's a trigger for anyone, but let me know if you need to know).

I called the EPAU and described what I had seen and explained I was worried that the tablets had stopped working as the bleeding had really slowed down the previous afternoon. The nurse said that although my experience was not the standard, some women just don't bleed a huge amount and it all happens quite quickly. She said what I had described 'passing' was what she would want to hear and that it was normal that the bleeding / cramping would tail off a bit after that. She said that the cramping and bleeding would continue for a while as my uterus shrinks back down and to call them if I had any heavy bleeding/ palm sized clots as that wouldn't be expected after this point.

I carried on having some bleeding and cramping at a normal period level yesterday (and this morning) and it seems like (fingers crossed!) it's all over...

I've actually found it quite hard to get my head around as it's been nothing like what I expected, but I am grateful to seem to have had the easier end of the experience.

Hope you're doing ok and let me know if you have any questions on anything. Happy to help in anyway I can. x

MwahHaHa · 26/05/2023 12:03

at 8 weeks (less really as not develping) MM is fine really. I wouldn't reccomend it for anything much post that stage, by 12 weeks MM is horrific and a ERPC is much better.

Some people get more pain than others so get some painkillers ready. Good luck.

Unicorn2023 · 26/05/2023 15:49

@user6078472 My experience again is different I got medical management 4 weeks ago should have been 11 weeks stopped growing at 6 but since it was my 5th miscarriage no living children I wanted it tested so I went on Friday for the first pill and back on the Monday stayed in hospital to catch everything and be monitored. I inserted the other pills and nothing happened at all for me 11 pills in total they gave me and not a thing budged so got kept in two days later still nothing and I ended up with surgical management and god for bid if this happened to me again it is the way I would go. Had minimal bleeding and minimal cramps and I had a negative pregnancy test for leaving the hospital on the Wednesday night I think what we are going through is hard enough never mind being in pain when you are already heartbroken but that’s just my opinion ♥️ sorry for your loss and I am sending you lots of love and hugs 🤗♥️ x

user6078472 · 27/05/2023 14:39

Thank you everyone and so sorry for your losses. @Unicorn2023 I can't believe you have had to go through this 5 times.
I had the first tablet yesterday afternoon and nothing much happened until this morning I have started cramping and light bleeding similar to a normal period. I also feel abit sick and light headed but the doctor did say that was likely. Going back tomorrow morning to have the second tablet.

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Unicorn2023 · 27/05/2023 14:50

@user6078472 Try and rest best you can ♥️ hot water bottle, chocolate and sit and watch Tv don’t do to much 🤗 sending you lots of love and hugs it’s such a shit time and my heart goes out to you ♥️🫶🏻

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