Hospital say I was never pregnant

[User1815]

Hello

I have taken several home pregnancy tests starting Friday 12th May and my last positive one was Friday 19th May. I took various tests including FRER, clear blue words and cheap boots. All came back positive and it says pregnant 1-2 weeks on one of them.

After bleeding and pain on one side today I went to A&E where they said my blood tests show I am not pregnant and it's unlikely I ever was, that the tests must have been wrong and these shop bought tests are not that accurate. I am feeling very upset is it possible they could have all been wrong. I know I was quite early to test last Friday as my period wasn't actually due until Wednesday or Thursday this week. They say I am not experiencing a miscarriage but rather my normal period,

When I got pregnant I requested a pregnancy test at my surgery and they said there was no need due to the high accuracy of shop bought tests. Are you still testing positive?

I saw your posts this morning, and I’m so sorry this happened to you. You were pregnant, there’s no way all those tests were wrong. It’s often called a “chemical pregnancy” when it’s lost so early, but that doesn’t make the loss any less real and painful to you and your partner. I think the hospital were really unkind to insist you were never pregnant to begin with. You were. I hope you’re doing okay and being gentle on yourself X

I haven't taken another test since I will try to do one tomorrow morning. This is my test from only two days ago. They did both a blood and urine test at hospital and both were completely negative

This happened to me too, many years ago. I found it really upsetting because it like I wasn’t allowed to be sad or disappointed. I felt like I was being told I was a silly fantasist.

OP, you know that you did have positive tests. Allow yourself to grieve and feel sad.

You've had what is known as a chemical pregnancy OP. I know it was very real to you with all the excitement that pregnancy brings, but medically speaking you're not officially pregnant until you've missed a period. Getting early positive results is only possible nowadays with better technology and most women would never have known anything, maybe just a slightly heavier than usual period or a couple of days late. Easier said than done but if you can hold off testing until at least the day of your period, then you know any positive result is properly valid. What happens in chemical pregnancies is that there's some of the necessary steps for an embryo ie sperm and egg meet, travel to uterus, implantation might start, hCG is released hence positive test, but at some point it all stops and comes away before you're actually pregnant.
Sorry for your loss. It really doesn't suggest there's anything wrong by the way, it's common for women to have these chemical pregnancies.

So sorry to read this, trying to conceive is such a worrying time. I had similar to this the month before I got pregnant with my baby. I was actually trying to testing as soon as I could. I had the positive tests and then nothing - period arrived as normal and tests returned to positive. The problem isn't that the tests are wrong, it's that they're too sensitive. They have picked up a very early chemical. If you hadn't been actually testing, I'd never have known. It's too early for the hospital to count as a miscarriage or be of concern as it is very common and normal - and something we wouldn't be aware of if we weren't testing.
Theory has it that it heightens it fertility. It certainly worked for me and my pregnancy the next month was a success. All the very best

Thank you so much I did technically miss my period but a couple of days, I am about 3-4 days late today when I got my period. I guess it is better not to test until a few days later.

So sorry you've gone through this, the hospital bring dismissive isn't at all helpful. I TTC for a very long time and made a rule for myself never to test until I was a week late. Before that I was making myself unwell breaking apart pregnancy tests to see if there was a line when I could clearly see there wasn't. Won't work for everyone but certainly has helped me.

@HiCandles

Exactly what I was going to write.

In addition a friend who is an epidemiologist was involved in a study where the hypothesis was that miscarriages were increasing, the results were that in reality the only difference is now people know that they conceived but the pregnancy failed to progress whereas previous generations thought their period was a day late and heavy. The rate of miscarriages 21 days after conception, the earliest traditionally pregnancy was considered established, is unchanged

@User1815 I am so sorry this has happened to you 💔 this happened with my first pregnancy too i tested on the day my period was due and that same week I started to bleed and went to A&E because I was in a lot of pain and they done all the tests and said that my pregnancy wasn’t viable and asked me if I was sure?! I had taken a test before I went to the hospital and it was very light and I showed them the picture I took and they then said oh it’s a chemical pregnancy 😢 they were so dismissive made me feel terrible for bothering them but to me it was a loss and I am heart sorry for you going through this 💔 please take care yourself sending you love and hugs 🤗♥️

It’s a chemical. The tests picked up on the pregnancy hormones. It counts. It was never going to be successful, but you felt pregnant. The hormones were there. It counts. They’re being callous in their insistence that you weren’t, like the poster articulated above, it minimises how you feel and makes a mockery of your sadness.

This exact same thing happened to me last year. I had pain in my side and bleeding so I went to A&E with a suspected ectopic after multiple positive tests. I had such an awful night with the most unsympathetic on-call gyno doctor. It was my third miscarriage so I knew how it felt. She kept insisting that according to my bloods there was no way I was ever pregnant. It was heartbreaking and she made me feel like an idiot (or slightly insane) but I know I was. The next day I got a call from the EPU who were concerned that there was actually some hormone still there (though not enough to be officially pregnant in the eyes of A&E) and I had to go back in to make sure it was decreasing. I think A&E have different thresholds/knowledge than EPUs.

Sorry you’re going through this, it’s such a difficult thing and to be disregarded like that just makes it worse. You know your body and those tests are accurate (especially when you take multiple) so don’t doubt yourself and allow yourself to heal mentally and physically. Sending a hug your way. xx

@Sunnybun I think you have accidentally posted on my thread about my chemical miscarriage. I would suggest you start your own thread so you can get more direct/targeted support.

Oh gosh. I have. I'm so so sorry. How can I delete this.

And I'm so sorry you've had a hard time. I'm wishing you all the best xx

@Sunnybun Please don't worry! I hope you get the support you need and you are doing OK