Hello,
I have already see my gp and have been given blood test forms to check FSH, LH, progesterone, thyroid, antibodies etc. Husband will be having a semen analysis in August requested by GP.
I would not wish this on anyone, but if there is anyone out there going through a similar situation please do share your thoughts or general advice as I am feeling very lonely & anxious.
I am 34 yrs old, non-smoker, bmi of 20, not on any medication, husband is 36 yrs old and is healthy (weight, non-smoker etc). We have a 6 yrs old daughter, but we conceived after nearly 2 yrs in 2016. During those 2 years had blood tests, scans, semen analysis everything came back normal. However, I remember clearly the last test I had was the HSG (where they flush the fallopian tubes) in May and next month in June we DTD probably twice during the fertile window and I was pregnant so I don't know if it was by chance or the HSG helped and cleared out minor blockages/debris in my tubes.
We decided to try for baby no.2 when my daughter started full-time school. After cycle 2 I was pregnant in Dec, but had a natural miscarriage at 6.5 weeks in jan 2022, tried again after 2 months and fell pregnant in march but sadly had another miscarriage at 5.5 weeks in April 2022. I was so devastated & heart broken💔. Spoke to my gp and she said via NHS most clinics the eligibility is 3 recurrent miscarriages or more before they investigate, was told to keep trying when we are ready. Started trying again in June 2022 and till now haven't been able to get BFP. I have been using the clearblue dual ovulation kits which detect high & peak fertile days for 3 months but stopped using them because they always displayed consistent results every month roughly days 9 to 13 of my cycle being the most fertile ( have a regular menstrual cycle of 26/ 27 days), so decided to stop using them every month because they were making me more anxious & they are quite expensive. I have tried many things as people have mentioned about raising legs after DTD and lying down and not standing/ walking about straight away, been taking pre-conception tablets daily, but I have reached a point now where I feel so down. Gp has agreed to do a few blood tests (mentioned at the beginning) and after getting all the results and husband's semen analysis which is in August I will then be referred to a fertility clinic. I was politely told by my gp as we already have 1 child NHS won't cover IVF which is fine as I understand that this is available for couples who don't have any children. The gp did say it will be ideal to get tested to see if there are any underlying issues because the previous tests where done in 2016.
Today I have been spotting and AF is due in 3 days time so I know most likely I am not pregnant eventhough we DTD from days 8 to 14.
I am very grateful that I have my daughter she means everything to us, I don't want this to occupy my mind all the time because it is consuming me so much mentally. There is a part of me thinking that probably we are unable to have anymore children there might be a medical issue, but TTC actively for 12 months has drained us out and I just don't know what to do. We haven't been using contraception since Dec 2021. It's difficult to discuss with family members as no one in my family have had fertility issues or miscarriages. Cousins are very fertile, had occasions when they are talking about babies and have said they have fallen pregnant quite quickly. I am happy for them, but just very sad that it is taking us so long and having had 2 losses is very difficult. Just feel really hopeless & sad 😔