Hi all,
Just wanted to share my experience and see if anyone has been through the same thing. We had a surprise pregnancy last year, sadly things never really got going, we found out I was pregnant as I passed a large clot. After more bleeding and extreme cramps I had a early scan at 7 where they confirmed there was no heartbeat and the baby had died a week prior.
We took some time to think about things and decided to try again in January. Within 2 cycles I was pregnant again. This time my pregnancy was so different, I had mild sickness, tiredness and sore boobs but no bleeding and only minor cramps. We were so excited for our baby. When I had blood tests at 9 weeks the nurse said I had some blood in my urine but it was nothing to worry about, this concerned me slightly but I still felt fine with no bleeding. I had some anxiety coming up to the 12 week scan but only based on our prior experience with scans.
We had the 12 week scan on Monday afternoon, I could clearly see the baby was not 12 weeks, she asked me if I was sure about my dates which I confirmed then she said she would go in vaginally to get a better look. At this point she told us the baby was only measuring 8 weeks and had no heartbeat. We were given the 3 options on how we want to proceed. I'm going in today for surgery, I had it last time under general anesthetic and it worked well, this time it'll be under local anesthetic, bit nervous of this but terrified to have the pills at home and potentially see my baby come out, I think this might push me over the edge mentally.
I keep looking back over my flo app and symptoms trying to find some reason why. At 9 weeks I had a really bad spell of cramps and dizziness, I didn't think much of it at the time but now I'm thinking this could've been the moment we lost the baby (I think I was more like 11 weeks than 12). Some of my symptoms have lessened over this past week, I thought it was just because I was coming out of the first trimester. I still have some symptoms which has been quite upsetting to experience.
We are trying to be kind to ourselves, we went to the beach yesterday and had a picnic and just talked about the future. We are going to start trying again ASAP. We won't have our baby for Christmas but hopefully we can have a summer baby instead.