2 miscarriages in a row - any hope?

[MummaDaisy]

Hi everyone,

in January I had an early miscarriage at 5+3 with my first ever pregnancy which was hard enough but passed quickly. 2 weeks later I fell pregnant again and I was scared but excited as I knew the chances of a second miscarriage were not necessarily anymore than before.

at around 6+3 I started bleeding but had early scans and everything seemed fine, it wasn’t until I was 11+3 I went for my 12 week scan and was told my baby had a large nuchal fold of 3.7mm and was high risk for chromosomal problems or a heart defect.

they ended up giving me a 1:2 chance of downs following my blood results and I booked in for a CVS at 12 weeks exactly which couldn’t be done due to placenta location. But baby seemed perfectly fine with a heartbeat and was moving around.

I then had a NIPT whilst awaiting my next CVS appointment and this came back as low risk for downs, edwards and patau. I then went for my CVS at 14 weeks exactly and there was no heartbeat and baby was measuring at around 12 weeks meaning it would’ve passed pretty much straight after my last scan.

I am heartbroken that I have been carrying my dead baby for 2 weeks and nothing has passed so am going in for a medical management on Friday (my 22nd birthday) :(. I just don’t know how I am going to cope.

does anyone have any insight into what a medical management will be like at this gestation? I’m terrified but it’s my only option and the one I feel most comfortable with anyway as I would like tests done on my baby to confirm cause of death.

I was also wondering if anyone else has had similar experiences and have gone on to have a healthy pregnancy? I am beyond terrified there is something wrong with me and am pretty convinced at this point with no successful pregnancies at my age.

13 years ago, I was where you are - I had had two miscarriages and was told I had to wait for a third before I could have any tests done. Got pregnant again a few months later, and I'm just waiting outside the school now to pick up my 12 year old daughter... with my wonderful surprise baby boy six years later too... of course none of us can guarantee anything for you but there is a good chance you will have a successful pregnancy. As for the medical management, I had to have this twice, and whilst it isn't the most fun day out, it's fine, it's over quickly. Make sure you have someone there to take you home and look after you afterwards (I remember comfort food and trashy TV were the order of the day for me!). I really do wish you the best of luck and hope it all works out for you x

I’m going through the same thing ♥️ thinking of your and sending lots of love and hugs 🤗 xxx

13 years ago for me too. Now have an 11 and 8 year old

The same happened to me almost 21 years ago. I lost one at 12 weeks followed by another at 10 weeks. I had op to remove the first but the second was natural.

I fell pregnant straight away after the second and ds is nearly 20 and sadly had another miscarriage a year after he was born which resulted in another surgery.

Dd arrived 2 years later and is now nearly 17.

So sorry for your loss op. Such a tough time. I miscarried at a similar gestation in December, baby measured 13 weeks but I was 15 weeks when I found out at a scan. I was able to have surgical management which I was glad for. Medical management will be a version of labour, you’ll be well supported by the staff ❤️
When you feel up to it, as you’ve had a late miscarriage, you could, if you wish, and depending on where you live, get a referral to one of the Tommys miscarriage clinics https://www.tommys.org/research/research-centres/tommys-national-centre-miscarriage-research-clinics
Ive found them invaluable and they are experts in their field. They can support you in future pregnancies too.

I went through very similar a couple of years ago, but already had a 3.5 / 4 year old. My 6 year old is currently eating dinner next to his 20 month old brother,

Have hope x

Thank you for your response❤️It’s so nice to heart stories with happy endings.

Same to you❤️Here if you need to talk x

I have tried to request a referral from my GP to st Mary’s in London, but not entirely sure if my miscarriage counts as late as although it was discovered at 14 weeks it was measuring just over 12 weeks I’m assuming it could’ve shrunk and curled up a bit now though :(

I’m sorry you are going through this, I remember how horrible and miserable a time it was. I had 2 consecutive miscarriages at 12weeks, then 8 weeks, and went on to have a healthy baby the following year.
There is hope x

Thanks everyone who responded with your positive stories- I was wondering how long you all waited to try again?

it might sound horrible but I can’t cope and I feel like I won’t be able to until I have another try. Doctors have said wait until I have 2 periods which is still months away. Is there any specific reason for this does anyone know? I’m just scared if I don’t listen then this will be more likely to happen again due to my womb not recovering properly…

I love my last two babies but all I want is a living baby to hold in my arms. I don’t want to replace the others at all but I’m desperate to try again

Sorry you are going through this. There's definitely lots of hope for you after 2 mcs. I had 3 mcs. (One was missed and I had an op to remove it.) I then had 2 healthy dds who are now 16 and 18.

Slightly different to you but I had at least 6 miscarriages at around 5 weeks before I had dd1. I started myself on aspirin when I got pregnant again and she stuck. I then tried to get pregnant 7 years later with new husband and lost the baby at 12 weeks ( it had stopped growing about 10 weeks). I had the surgical management which was very straightforward and I got pregnant the next cycle with dd2 but I did take the aspirin again with her. Not sure if it’s the aspirin that makes the difference with me. There certainly is hope. There is some evidence I read that women who have multiple miscarriages are actually super fertile because they let non viable eggs implant.

The only thing I would say about getting pregnant straight after is being pregnant for so long if you end up being successful is quite hard on the body and mind. I got pregnant in nov, had the surgical management in January, pregnant again in February and gave birth end of a November so it felt like I’d been pregnant for 12 months and I had morning sickness throughout both pregnancies. It was rough.

Thanks for your response ❤️I agree it’ll be hard on my body. Because I fell pregnant immediately after my last MC I have been pregnant for 5 the last 5 months and have nothing to show for it.

thats what breaks my heart. I just feel like the last 5 months have gone so slow and we’re just a huge waste of time although that sounds horrible because I love my babies.

I want to get pregnant and allow my body to have a period to clear everything out but I’m also scared I’ll be wasting many more months and it’ll go by so slow.

im struggling to come to terms with the change I’m now going to experience. I thought I’d have my baby by Christmas or new year and now nothing. It’s so hard to think of everything I won’t have now.

I think next time if I fall pregnant without having been seen by doctors I will take a low dose of aspirin myself.

Sorry for your losses OP - for better or worse, what you’ve been through is actually pretty common.

I had an early MC after about a year of trying. We started TTC pretty much straight away after that, given it had taken a year to fall pregnant. I got pregnant quickly this time … and had another miscarriage at about 6 weeks.

I was convinced there was something wrong with me.

We didn’t want to wait and TTC’d straight away. And got pregnant that very cycle.

DS is 14, and I then went onto have DD 18 months after he was born.

If either of those two miscarried pregnancies had worked out, I wouldn’t have DS - and that’s unthinkable.

For me they both happened for a reason.

Yes, I had three miscarriages in a year. I was six weeks pregnant at my first recurrent miscarriage appointment. They gave me progesterone and now I have a six month old! The specialist in recurrent miscarriage said at my appointment that nearly all of her patients went on to have a baby eventually!

I'm so sorry op. I had two miscarriages in a tow, but now have a 4 year old and a 2 year old. Best of luck to you.

My first pregnancy was a missed miscarriage which I had to wait weeks to pass. I decided against medical management as baby stopped growing around 6 weeks and passed around 12 weeks. Second pregnancy I lost again around 6 weeks. I gave myself some time to get over it and conceived again about a year later with my son.
I felt exactly the same as you, but unfortunately it's not that uncommon, I'm sure you will go on to have a healthy pregnancy soon x

Sorry you have had to go through this, it’s truly devastating. I have experienced two MMC this year and currently 7.5 weeks pregnant with number 3. I have an early scan on Sunday but I am so worried. Before my second miscarriage we saw baby’s heartbeat at 7.5 weeks but sadly this is when it stopped growing. It’s so difficult to feel hopeful and excited! I too am looking for successful stories yet every time I read one I see someone else say they’ve had more than 3 in a row and I can’t help but think that will be me 😩

I'm so sorry you're going through this.

After my third miscarriage I became pregnant whilst still on the waiting list for the recurrent miscarriage clinic.

My GP agreed to prescribe me progesterone and the resulting beautiful 9 month old is currently snoring (a cold!) with her head on my shoulder.

Praying as I write this that you get to experience that same joy.

Hi everyone, so sorry to hear of your losses but glad you got your rainbow babies!

@rjs12 im so sorry for what you’ve gone through and I am honestly wishing you all the best for Sunday❤️🤞🏽

I unfortunately did go on to have a third miscarriage but the month following I fell pregnant again and had scans every 2 weeks. The first scan no heartbeat and measuring a week behind. I couldn’t help but fear the worst, but every scan after that I was suprised to see a little heartbeat!

I am now 30 weeks pregnant with our triple rainbow and she actually has a special heart (her aorta is branching the wrong way). But everything else seems perfect and she is doing well and we don’t anticipate this to cause her any issues! So miracles really do happen and she is ours!

wishing everyone a healthy and happy new year❤️And for those of you who haven’t yet had your rainbow babies - I hope everything works out for you in 2024❤️

@MummaDaisy congratulations!! I’m on here looking for hope having just had my second MMC in a row, feeling completely heartbroken and hopeless. Your story of hope, and others on this thread have been really helpful. Wishing you a restful next ten weeks before you welcome your rainbow 🌈 ♥️