When to try again?

[Tryingtobe123]

Currently going through a loss at 7 weeks pregnant. I always used to think women sounded mad when they’d consider trying again asap for another baby after a miscarriage. But here I am!

did you wait a certain amount of time before trying again? If so how long?

Hi @Tryingtobe123 - sorry to see you over here, we've been chatting a bit on your other thread :(

Even as my miscarriage was still in progress all I could think about was getting pregnant again as quickly as possible. That's still the case 5 weeks later. I don't think there's any right or wrong so long as bleeding has stopped and you feel physically and emotionally ready.

It's impossible to know what your body will do next unfortunately. My bleeding stopped after a week and then 4 weeks after the MC I ovulated (confirmed with LH and BBT, plus other symptoms) without having had a period in between. We decided to go for it and try, so now I'm in the tww on 6dpo. For me personally, I just couldn't bear the thought of letting a cycle go past when I had the chance to get pregnant. But I have low expectations for it working this month and actually won't be upset if my period comes as that means my cycles are fully back relatively quickly.

Others will have a very different take. My desperation for a second child has increased exponentially being pregnant and having had this loss - I spent 2 months planning for a baby and picturing our future, so the sooner we can make that a reality the better. I also feel like milestones like the due date etc will be easier to bear if I'm pregnant again.

@Hankthehonk hey!

yeah it’s weird I always thought people were mad to want to try again so soon but I think we’ll be the same and just go for it! We’d spoken so much about a second child so we’re ready for it 😞

hopefully this will be your rainbow!

I miscarried in December and I'm 13 weeks pregnant now. I had an mva and they advised me to wait for 1 period which I did. Got pregnant next cycle in Jan. I didn't feel like I was rushing.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this - sending you love.

I don’t have any advice as I’ve just miscarried my first pregnancy two days ago at 7 weeks 2 days, but feel the same as you and wanted to follow this thread. I just want to try again as soon as possible, not something I ever thought I would feel when I imagined this nightmare.

@EstieGreenwood so sorry for your loss as well. I don't think we should give ourselves a hard time for feeling differently than how we "should" or thought we should before we had this awful experience.
Whatever happens this cycle, I felt a lot of relief when I realised I was ovulating 4 weeks post mc. Even if it had been a period, having evidence of my cycles returning has given me fresh hope and helped me be less angry with my body. Hoping that happens relatively soon for you as well x

@Hankthehonk You’re right - I keep trying to remind myself that the word ‘should’ has no relevance to my life in this hellish time. Thank you for your well wishes - keeping my fingers crossed for all of us.

Technically we won't be trying as it was a natural conception when we have only conceived through IVF. Just waiting for my period to start and then we can go back to normal without using contraception. Kind of desperate for a sex life again.

I miscarried on Monday at 6 weeks and I want to try again as soon as possible. Friends have said to take my time to process things but I just want to focus on ttc again now. I guess it’s a way of coping too.

I'm sorry to hear you are going through this. In my experience, I had a loss at 6 weeks and then decided to try again after my first period. We were very lucky and managed to conceive our ds. I think it's when you feel physically and emotionally ready to be honest.

Just wanted to check in to see how things are going. We tried the first month after my miscarriage and I was pretty devastated by my period arriving (a few days ‘late’). We’ve decided to take a month off trying because we’ve got a big trip in a few weeks and I can’t take the uncertainty- I just want to enjoy myself. But I still feel like I’m losing time and I’m just desperate for it to happen again.