Starting to miscarry naturally before the surgery

[SnookyPook]

Hi everyone,

I wonder if anyone is able to share experience of this? I was sadly diagnosed with my MMC on Friday and they booked me in for surgery early Tuesday morning. However over the weekend I have started the process myself and am pretty sure that the pregnancy has probably come out (have had cramping, lots of bleeding, including 4 quite sizeable clots although I wasn't able to make out if these were the baby or not).

My pre-op appointment is this morning and they said to keep it regardless and let them know if anything has happened and they will likely rescan etc.

I just wanted to know from other people this might have happened to, did they keep the surgery slot and 'finish' the process that way, or once you've started on your own do they leave you to it? I know it's one of those things that will probably vary lots and depend on what is found etc but I just thought it might be helpful to hear some other experiences. Thank you very much.

Hi op, I am so sorry this is happening to you. with my recent MMC it’s not quite the same as you but I started to miscarry naturally & things went quite bad. I bled so much I ended up in a&e, and eventually my bleeding stopped and I hoped I had passed everything but a scan the next day showed the sac was still there. I was given the various options, including letting it continue naturally but I opted for the surgery as I wanted full closure and couldn’t face passing it at home. I was told my surgery had more risks than benefits because it was so small (baby stopped growing at 6 weeks but I didn’t miscarry until 13) but I still went for it. Everything went perfectly and I was home the same day. From my experience, they will still offer you all of the options so you can pick the best for you

Thank you @strawberry6 and so sorry for your loss and you traumatic experience. I hope you are doing as well as possible. 💕

@SnookyPook Thinking of you xoxox

I had this too.
I was booked for a surgery in 10 days however it started naturally about 4 days later and it went really bad, the cramps were unbearable plus the bleeding, I remember sitting on the toilet as impossible to get up as too much blood was coming out.
In the end I had to A&E as it was just so bad, when I walked there in corridors a trail of blood was behind me, that how bad it was. They kept me in overnight on morphine and let me go home the next afternoon and I still had to go for the surgery the next week as the sack was still inside.

Thank you all for you replies and well wishes. I'm just back from the hospital. I won't be needing surgery - they had a good check with both abdominal and internal scans and I have miscarried completely over the weekend with no retained products. I'm quite relieved and feeling a sense of peace now although obviously sad too. The healing process can begin though. Have got a sicknote for up to a month and going to make sure I give myself time to grieve and recover. It's the best possible outcome from a shitty situation and I'm feeling really proud of myself and my body right now.

For anyone reading this at a later date or in a similar situation, I also wanted to share that my experience of the natural miscarriage was not as dramatic or scary as some of the stories you hear. The cramping never got worse than bad period pains or very early labour contractions (possibly helped that I took pain relief the minute I felt it starting) and I didn't have to rush to A&E or anything. I mostly managed by sitting on the toilet which is where I passed all the larger clots. I did have a few gushes when not on the toilet where I suddenly filled a pad and leaked through slightly but it wasn't painful or scary.Wishing lots of love and healing to anyone else going through this. 💕