Baby was due today, what can I do to cheer myself up?

[Katie3677]

The baby I miscarried in September (1st of two miscarriages) was due to be born today. DH is being great with flowers, champagne etc, but a friend gave birth yesterday and I have just been to see her and LO in hospital, and am feeling very raw. Any ideas for cheering me & dh up. We have a 2yo, so partying is out of the question!

Oh ! darling. I know how you feel. I have been there twice. Just think that some babies arrive late and they induce us when we are 10 days overdue, so it may not have happened today. I know it is no consolation, but you two DESERVE to celebrate your love for each other. happiness will come back. Think of me, I am pregnant again after 2 miscarriages and once I felt like you.
all the best

Hey Katie

I too have had two miscarriages the last one being last week. I know how you feel about when the baby was due. My first pregnancy I felt very raw at the due date and cried. My second miscarriage the baby would be due on my birthday, this coming Sept and that is going to be another hard one every birthday here on in will never be the same now.

You and your DH need to do what you both feel is right for you.

All the best

oh sweetheart, i understand. please grieve, and remember your baby. I bought plants for some of my beans, and it helps me x

(((hugs)))
light a little candle this evening for your LO?
and maybe choose a very little 'something' that you could get tomorrow to keep to remember your little angel. I have all kinds of little things around the house, very few people know which ones they are and what they mean, but it works for me to have them around. one's a little beatrix potter figure with hunker munker and a baby mouse (might sound odd in the circumstances) but they work for me. Lots of mc's, three beautiful DC. things do work out in the end, but I really do feel for you, and I honestly don't think these anniversaries and due dates get any easier, you just figure out what 'works' for you to feel ok and remember them in your own way.

So sorry Katie, thinking about you and your DH today.

Don't think anything will make today any less painful but remembering your baby and celebrating your love for your family will get you through. I'm dreading mid March cos I'll be the same - thought I'd be 5mths pg but lost that baby last month . So have a cry/glass of wine/cream cake whatever you feel like and know we're all thinking of you and your little bean.

Thanks everyone. Well we didn't do anything particularly exciting, steak and bottle of sparkly stuff, so I got drunk and that helped! But we did make a decision in that we will keep trying for 6 more months and if nothing happens then we will give up and I will enjoy spending time with my DS before he goes off to school, and then I will go back to work and get stuck into my career. I don't think DH was particualrly pleased with this decision as he doesn't want to face the prospect of no more kids, but it has helped me to have a back up plan. Keeping my fingers crossed for a BFP in the near future, and that it will be a sticky one. Thanks again or all your posts.

Oh dont give up! You could try again when you are ready. There are also options to find out why this is happening /happened. Could be various reasons, hormones, thyroid etc.. Fertility clinics are good, they can check allsorts without you having to tie yourself to any expensive treatment - in most cases it is something basic that can be easily put right. It would only be more upsetting if it kept happening. I am not saying you are not fertile, but maybe something can be looked into just incase. I had an underactive thyroid which I never knew until then and I now take Iodine.

I know what it is like as I lost my first baby (ectopic), and when the due date arrived which was actually 21 Dec I was very depressed as it would have been an xmas baby. Everyone around me was getting pregnant at the same time. I ended up going to a fertility clinic and was amazed at what things they can do - and these clinics are not just for those who are infertile. I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl in Aug 2007, and that with only one tube.