first ever miscarriage :/

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So, I’m not actually a mum but I thought this would be the right place for some wisdom and advice. For context, I’m 20 (not that I feel 20) and I had a miscarriage last September, it’s one of those things where you always hear about it happening but never think it’s going to happen to you but then it did so it was a strange experience, it was fairly early and I didn’t let myself get too upset about it and also hid it from my partner as we’d only been together a couple months at the time and I didn’t want to make a big fuss or freak him out etc.

I know it’s a fairly normal thing to experience but I just have so many questions. If you yourself have had one were you able to conceive again and have more children? Will I be doomed to miscarry every time? I’m just anxious about the whole thing to be honest especially with having PCOS, I’m often questioning was that my only chance and I somehow messed it up without realising? If anyone could share their experience, thoughts, feelings, advice or any info on it, it would be incredibly reassuring :)

I just wanted to pop a little message on here to send you some hugs. It’s a really difficult thing to happen, and process all the different emotions and feelings.

there is no reason why you wouldn’t conceive again and have a health pregnancy. 1in4 pregnancies end with a miscarriage. So don’t let this worry you too much. It’s just one of those things that happens sadly.

I’ve known many women have miscarriages and go on to have many more babies.

I had a miscarriage last summer too, sadly I haven’t conceived again, but will keep trying and hopefully will happen soon.

be kind to yourself and take care ❤️

I am so sorry for you loss. Having a miscarriage is one of the most painful experiences you can go through as a woman and like you say, you don't quite imagine it'll happen to you.

I had a miscarriage last year at almost 3 months and it was devastating. The emotional and physical pain was unbearable at the time. It took me a longer while to heal from the emotional pain. I often wondered will I get pregnant again and if so how soon, when? Will I miscarry again. An endless stream of questions and worries. I conceived again recently so please be reassured that you will do so too when your body is ready. Statistics show that a miscarriage doesn't decrease your chances of conceiving again.
Try to remain positive, it will happen for you again hopefully. Hugs to you x

So sorry for your loss. How ever early it was it was still a significant loss for you. I feel you lose more than the pregnancy... you lose an entire future you imagined. It's utterly heartbreaking .. please don't minimise how you feel.. x

I would say that until I had one and openly talked about it I didn't realise just how many women had experienced it also. Its devastatingly common.

I have had two and now have a 6 month old
I fell pregnant within 3 cycles each time so I would say it's entirely individual.

I don't feel ( in my experience from talking with others) that there's a common theme of one miscarriage and no further pregnancies.

Sorry for your loss. My DD was born within a year of me having a miscarriage at 3 months. I know lots of women who have gone on to have healthy babies.

Oh hon I'm so sorry, know there's nothing you could have done differently, nothing. It's so common for this to happen and no-one really talks about it. I had a miscarriage and went on to have 3 children. You're 20, I had my first child at 41. You have lots of time, this was not your one chance xxx

Statistically, one miscarriage does not predict any more nor any problems trying to conceive

I struggle with PCOS as well and I’m only currently 5 weeks right now but I been having complications with this pregnancy already.I been having cramps nonstop and really sharp pain out of no where.I also been having sharp pains in my lower back,kidneys and beneath my ribcage.I’m constantly losing weight but gaining it right back.I been having bad nausea but no vomiting yet.I feel so sick all the time and I have no type of appetite to eat anything but I force myself to eat. I been having constant headaches and dizziness that seems to always be there.I’m worried because this pain is persistent and won’t go away.Is it possible to miscarry this early into my pregnancy?

@Anon544318 I don't know much about PCOS but all your symptoms sound like my pregnancies symptoms. Have you spoken to your GP or midwife?

Congratulations x

I don’t have a GP or a midwife