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2 losses in a year. Is there any hope?😢

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Danni15 · 31/03/2023 10:31

Currently having the worst 7 months of my life.
last year on 19th September 2022 i gave birth to my beautiful baby girl at 22 weeks. We found out at the 20 week scan that she had only half a heart among other issues, she was diagnosed with Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome. The heartbreak and shock was unbelievable as we have 3 healthy children with no issues. Many specialists visits later it wasn’t good news. She lived for 1 minute only and then passed peacefully. I will never be the same after losing her, the pain is unbearable, the only thing that has gotten me through is my Husband and 3 other children. Fast forward to January 2023, unbelievably we found out we were pregnant again, we weren’t trying exactly but baby was very much wanted, it actually helped to cope with losing my baby girl (never to replace her). I went for an early scan at 8 weeks as hardly had any symptoms which is unusual for me and baby had no heartbeat, so missed miscarriage. First miscarriage ever. Weeks passed, so many hospital visits. Opted for medically managed twice over, no good so at 12 weeks pregnant had an MVA. Which brings me to now. 4 weeks post MVA, possibly just coming to the end of 1st period. No history of health issues with me or husband. Desperately want to try again but absolutely petrified. Im going to be 35 this year so time isn’t on my side. Is there any hope?? Xx

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Mammma91 · 31/03/2023 10:40

I’m so sorry about you daughter and misscarrige op. Your heart will be broken. I too have had a few losses and a 3 year old.
I don’t have any words, but I just wanted to send some love and hopefully someone will be along soon with better words or advice. X

Danni15 · 31/03/2023 12:08

Thank you so much. It is so heartbreaking and unexpected. This is my first time using a forum so thank you for reaching out so quickly. Take care x

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Hankthehonk · 01/04/2023 14:54

I'm so sorry to read your story, for the loss of your daughter and your mc. Sounds like a very traumatic time. I have just recently had a miscarriage too, I have one daughter.

From everything I've read (and it's been a lot since my mc but I don't claim any expertise) you should not lose hope and there's every reason to think you will have another baby. Especially since you have had 3 healthy pregnancies and children. Have you asked your doctor? Did they think there was any link between the condition of the daughter you lost last year, and the recent mc?

Sending solidarity x

Danni15 · 01/04/2023 19:05

Thank you for replying. Im currently awaiting results from last year for my baby girl, its been 6 months but they’ve been in contact to say they are running behind. From research im just hoping it’s just bad luck that I’ve gone from a loss at 22 weeks to a missed miscarriage, as ive had 3 children with no issues. But who knows, it’s just so hard to be positive for the future. Im just so grateful for the family I’ve got now and I’ll never take anything for granted again. Ill never take a healthy pregnancy for granted again. Im so sorry for your loss aswell. Prayers for the future 🙏🏽

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