2 weeks post miscarriage

[kirsty71988]

Hi all,

Looking for advice, 2 weeks post miscarriage. Ended up with surgery as I haemorrhaged badly and lost alot of blood. I am still feeling quite tender and uncomfortable but I'm not bleeding anymore. Everything online says I should feel better within 2-3 days and while im not actually sore I do not feel like im back to normal, is this normal?

Sorry you're going through this. I had a natural miscarriage a week ago and I'm still bleeding and tender (also all over the place emotionally). I was 10w3d and my doctor said the further along you were the longer it may take to recover. As it will take some time for hormones to get back to pre pregnancy level, so I think it's normal to not feel normal.

Thank you, I was 11 weeks along. Scared to take a test at the moment incase its positive it's too raw at the moment Sorry to hear about yours, hope your start to feel better soon.

Sorry you're still feeling sore @kirsty71988, I had a miscarriage last week at 12 weeks (although I don't know how far along we'd actually made it as I hadn't had a scan yet). I'm still bleeding a little and feeling some aches and pains. The light headed feeling is starting to get better but my hormones are still raging away.
I've been asked to do a test in 2 weeks as I was still showing a faint positive. I think that is because I hadn't had a scan so they had to list it as pregnancy of unknown location just in case. Although I know it was most likely a complete miscarriage as I ended up in A&E.
Hope you start to feel better soon.

Just wondering, have you took any time off work? If so how long? I have a week off but might ask for another one.

Sorry you are feeling this way. I think all MCs are different and this definitely sounds within the realm of "normal" from all the stories I've been reading. I am one week post MC, still bleeding but lightly and don't really have any other physical issues except exhaustion. Emotionally is another matter.
I was signed off work for two weeks, I can't remember now whether the doctor at the hospital just did that automatically or whether she asked me how long I wanted, but I wouldn't have been ready to go back after just one week. I am needing to lie down/sleep and cry a lot, and I'm making daft mistakes just being around the house and looking after my daughter, my brain feels overwhelmed with grief. I don't think I could do my job like this. Thankfully my work have been very kind and understanding.

I just can't wait till it all settles down, been horrible and feel it's a constant reminder too. I had 2 weeks off and could have took longer but I went back for my own mental health I feel like I needed to keep busy. If you are not feeling ready I would 100% not go back. You need to take the time to get yourself back to normal

Yes my line manager has been supportive and encouraged me not to rush back, but I've started working from home just to provide a distraction from it all so I think it is very personal about what you feel you need.
They've said that if I change my mind and need more time off just to let them know, so I feel like there is a safety net if it's too much for me.

I am very lucky I am friends with a lot of the people I work with and my manager is also a close friend and she's been out helping me for 3 days. I only feel like today I have mentally made progress. If you need to cry then cry I feel like it's a good outlet better than keeping it bottled up all the time