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Is there any chance of hope?

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sweetpotato29 · 20/03/2023 21:34

I had my 12 week scan today and had the dreaded news that they couldn't see the baby. Looked like an empty sac.

They then did an internal scan and found the gestational sac and what measured as around a 5 week embryo. My last period was mid-December.

I have had brown spotting on and off over the last week but that's it really.

They said there was a chance I lost a pregnancy early on and then got pregnant again and that's what's measuring as 5 weeks... we have had sex a few times which would make this plausible.

Is this completely false hope do you think? I kind of wish they hadn't said that. I need to wait 2 weeks for my next scan to find out and this feels like mental torture. This is my first pregnancy and I can't believe how much this is hurting me and my husband Sad

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Singlemum90 · 20/03/2023 21:41

I didn't want to read and run. I am not sure about the pregnancy but wanted to offer a hand hold. I'm sorry you are going through this and genuinely hope so much that your 5 week embryo is going to grow to be a healthy baby for you. Keep strong x

OrionNebula · 20/03/2023 21:42

Oh you poor thing, sorry I don't have any advice but didn't want to read and run. Really hope you get good news in 2 weeks Flowers
I'm sure someone will be along soon with some more useful advice for you x

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sweetpotato29 · 20/03/2023 22:11

Thank you so much for the kind words. This has been one of the worst days of my life and turned our world upside down.

This horrible limbo place to be is just awful.

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OrionNebula · 21/03/2023 20:53

Giving this a bump for you OP x

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sweetpotato29 · 21/03/2023 22:04

I've started to naturally miscarry Sad hardest thing I've ever been through. Never known a pain like it. Scared for what the future holds for us now...

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HopeAndStrength · 22/03/2023 08:41

I'm so sorry @sweetpotato29, sending love

Singlemum90 · 22/03/2023 12:50

I'm so sorry for your loss x

countrypunk · 22/03/2023 17:33

I'm so sorry @sweetpotato29 💛

I've just been through a miscarriage too and I promise you will feel better. Sending you love and support.

welshpolarbear · 22/03/2023 17:40

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I note you're scared for the future, if it gives you some comfort at all we lost a baby at 12 weeks, got pregnant again 3 months later and had a healthy baby.

It was obviously a worrying pregnancy but I think can still carry on trying when you are ready and there's every chance next time it'll be ok 💐

OrionNebula · 22/03/2023 21:42

I'm so sorry Flowers

desertcalippo · 22/03/2023 22:17

So sorry OP. It really is the most heartbreaking feeling. I miscarried twice and now have a healthy 5 month old, so please try and stay positive as difficult as it is. Sending lots of love.

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sweetpotato29 · 23/03/2023 08:25

Thank you all. I have so much empathy for others who have experienced similar to this, there really is nothing like the mental, emotional and physical pain of it.

Felt like I was having labour contractions for 2 hours last night but am hoping that's the worst of it over with now.

It is a comfort to hear from others who have gone on to have healthy pregnancies after something like this. This baby was very much wanted and we are keen to try again. I just don't think I'll ever forget it and it won't be the same naive happiness again. I imagine I'll be lots more anxious and worried if we are lucky enough to get pregnant again.

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Lauraann8830 · 25/03/2023 10:06

@sweetpotato29
Sorry you’re going through this, I hope you’re over the worst of the physical pain now and that you have all the support you need to help you emotionally.

I’ve just started the same journey as you. I found yesterday when I was 10 weeks 4 days that baby had stopped growing at 6 weeks 4 days 💔 it’s heartbreaking

I agree it’s one of the hardest things I’ve been through. Its so hard waiting and preparing for the physical side to start whilst trying to grieve and deal with all the pregnancy symptoms and hormones - it just feels so cruel.

We’ve been TTC on and off for a 2-3 years now but we got pregnant quite quickly after a long break. I don’t think my body was ready when TTC before (my periods turned light/irregular) but was feeling more like back to normal before this pregnancy.

I sort of feel this pregnancy and babies purpose was to give me hope for the TTC (I’d nicknamed baby Snowdrop when I found out which means flower of hope). I think my body must be ready and want to be pregnant again because it has tried so hard to hold on to this one even though there was something wrong with the baby.

And whilst I’m heartbroken we’ve lost our much longed for, wanted and loved baby 💔 - I do believe there was something wrong with I’m glad that he/she was too tiny to feel any suffering or pain - as their Mummy I will carry all that them.

I also felt so so uncontrollably anxious this pregnancy but people were trying to reassure me all the things I was worried about were normal (which they can be) but think I was more concerned because I had them all and something just didn’t feel quite right. I’m hoping if I’m lucky enough to get pregnancy and there’s no red flags I’ll feel less anxious but not naive enough to think this experience won’t leave some sort of lasting scar.

Once I’m physically and we’re both emotionally ready we will be TTC again and I hope that I will be able to go in cautiously yet optimistically.

This baby will always be remembered and yours will too and they’ll never be replaced but hopefully we’ll have little rainbow babies we can shower with love ❤️ and help us remember that life can be cruel but also beautiful.

Sending lots of love ❤️ Xxxxxx

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sweetpotato29 · 06/04/2023 12:50

Lauraann8830 · 25/03/2023 10:06

@sweetpotato29
Sorry you’re going through this, I hope you’re over the worst of the physical pain now and that you have all the support you need to help you emotionally.

I’ve just started the same journey as you. I found yesterday when I was 10 weeks 4 days that baby had stopped growing at 6 weeks 4 days 💔 it’s heartbreaking

I agree it’s one of the hardest things I’ve been through. Its so hard waiting and preparing for the physical side to start whilst trying to grieve and deal with all the pregnancy symptoms and hormones - it just feels so cruel.

We’ve been TTC on and off for a 2-3 years now but we got pregnant quite quickly after a long break. I don’t think my body was ready when TTC before (my periods turned light/irregular) but was feeling more like back to normal before this pregnancy.

I sort of feel this pregnancy and babies purpose was to give me hope for the TTC (I’d nicknamed baby Snowdrop when I found out which means flower of hope). I think my body must be ready and want to be pregnant again because it has tried so hard to hold on to this one even though there was something wrong with the baby.

And whilst I’m heartbroken we’ve lost our much longed for, wanted and loved baby 💔 - I do believe there was something wrong with I’m glad that he/she was too tiny to feel any suffering or pain - as their Mummy I will carry all that them.

I also felt so so uncontrollably anxious this pregnancy but people were trying to reassure me all the things I was worried about were normal (which they can be) but think I was more concerned because I had them all and something just didn’t feel quite right. I’m hoping if I’m lucky enough to get pregnancy and there’s no red flags I’ll feel less anxious but not naive enough to think this experience won’t leave some sort of lasting scar.

Once I’m physically and we’re both emotionally ready we will be TTC again and I hope that I will be able to go in cautiously yet optimistically.

This baby will always be remembered and yours will too and they’ll never be replaced but hopefully we’ll have little rainbow babies we can shower with love ❤️ and help us remember that life can be cruel but also beautiful.

Sending lots of love ❤️ Xxxxxx

I'm so sorry to hear you are going through something similar, it is just awful isn't it.

I've had a follow up scan which confirmed that everything has come away and have completely stopped bleeding now. Physically am feeling much better, but mentally/emotionally am still all over the place.

I hope you have a good support network in place to help you through this time. And keeping fingers crossed for both of us for the future. I know my husband and I are keen to try again soon xx

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