How are pregnancy remains given after a D and C

[SG1103]

Hi I was just wondering if anyone has had a D and C to remove a missed miscarriage, how were the remains given are they in some sort of box, a bag? If we bury the remains I don't like the idea of them being inside a plastic box that won't decompose, but also don't like the idea of seeing the remains if buried directly into the soil.

I'm not sure if it depends on how far you were....but I was 13 weeks and baby was measuring 9 weeks. They were given to me in a small glass tube and (so sorry to say this) did not resemble a baby in any way. It was quite upsetting, so it may be something you need to prepare for.
Sorry for your loss 💐

Thanks, it was 10 weeks along, and 8 weeks baby stopped growing. Sorry to ask about details was there a screw lid on it if we wanted to empty the remains into the soil? I just looked it up glass is even worse than plastic 1million years it will sit there. I want it to be absorbed into the soil to grow into the plants.

I wasn't given the remains - I signed a form regarding how the hospital would handle the remains.

Are you set on taking the remains home?

So sorry to hear about your loss. I also wasn't given my remains - signed a form to say they'd handle them sensitively for me 💛

I wasn't given anything, but I had requested fought for the embryo to be tested as it was my third mc, so that might have made a difference.
Sorry you are going through this OP

Hi @SG1103 so sorry to hear you're going through this, it's an awful experience. I had a DandC to remove some tissue and signed the forms to have it disposed of. However, a few days later I passed a lot more tissue, it was the egg sac. They didn't get it all during the d&c.
The reason I'm posting is because like you I had the compelling urge to bury it. It didn't look anything like a baby, but it was the start of my baby and the closest I've gotten so far to being a mum.
I did bury it and completely understand your feelings around not wanting to touch it as the tissue was... unsettling. But I wore gloves.
I won't go into detail as burying mine was deeply personal, emotional and upsetting. I did it alone as it almost felt like some kind of ritual I needed to go through. Afterwards I felt like a chapter had closed and the place I buried the tissue is somewhere I can visit -and I do visit.
If this is something you need, even if you can't express in words why you need it, I would try to make peace with the clinical side of actually getting the remains back from the hospital.

I have four, and wasn’t given the remains with any of them. Ranged between 8-15 weeks. The 15 week one was taken for genetic testing. The others I assume were binned.

It won’t look like a baby - at 8 weeks it will only be about a centimetre long and will look a bit like a tadpole.