15 yo miscarriage

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This week my daughter had surprise miscarriage. She's only 15 years old . My daughter didn't know she was pregnant . Im supporting her the best I can. We haven't really spoken about the whole situation yet but she is being open with her mother, which I can totally understand and realived tjst she can talk about it.

The dilemma I have is that i dont want to make thesituation worse but her bf is nearly 17 and I feel i should tell his parents of what has happened while some of my family say I should go to the police. What options do I have ?

You do nothing. You support your daughter emotionally and give her all the love that you can.

Why on earth would you want to make her situation worse by going to the police?

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Firstly give your DD all the support you can;a surprise pregnancy which was discovered via a miscarriage would be incredibly traumatic for an adult let alone a teenager.Please consider helping get some counselling for her.

Secondly I don't see the point of going to the police,your DD is 15 and her boyfriend is 16;unless he coerced her there's very little the police will probably do and will only pour fuel onto the fire of an already traumatic situation;have you spoken to your DD about how she feels about her boyfriend?

And lastly;you need to talk about reliable contraception with her to prevent this happening again.

My heart goes out to you and your DD.

What do you mean 'some of the family say I should go to the police'???

How many family members have you disclosed your daughters private information to???

I’ve tried to think what my husband would do in your situation, he’s want to find a way to fix it. In the kindest way, you can’t fix it. I’m so sorry, it must be hard for you to feel useless but just be there for her, be there for her mum.

The police don't get involved if the kids are of similar ages, which they are. Just support your daughter, she needs her mum at the moment.

Also, be cautious of seeking advice on here. While most people are lovely, like most social media some like to kick you when you’re down.

Do not go to the police. Do not tell the boyfriend's family. This is your daughter's decision. And why are you discussing her with your family? Does she know you have told them about her miscarriage?

Secondly I don't see the point of going to the police,your DD is 15 and her boyfriend is 16;unless he coerced her there's very little the police will probably do and will only pour fuel onto the fire of an already traumatic situation

This.

There isn't an age related power imbalance between them at all so I'm struggling to see why on earth your family members feel it's a police matter and why you're even considering acting on their advice.

It would be cruel to add that to her emotional load at the moment.

Be there for her, hug her while she cries, listen to her and speak to her about contraception again when she can see the wood for the trees.

Unexpected miscarriages are traumatic for adults let alone teenagers, all she needs you to be right now is there for her.

This also. I'm shocked that multiple people in your family seem to know this private information about her.

Go to the police for what? A 16 year old boy getting his 15 year old girlfriend pregnant isn’t a crime.

You need to stop trying to be the macho fixer, and give your daughter all the help and support she needs.

Don’t let her look back on this time with even worse memories.

Get her through the trauma, and then deal with the bigger issue around sex and contraception.

Your daughter just needs your support.