5wks pregnant, all symptoms gone, panicked

[Presently83]

Hi all,

I'm 5+1 and over the past couple of days have felt all my symptoms subsiding completely. No longer bone-achingly tired, boobs no longer sore, just don't 'feel' pregnant, IYKWIM.

I've had three miscarriages in the past year (two MMC at 11wks and one chemical) and then 2 failed rounds of IVF to try and figure out what was going wrong - this was a surprise natural BFP just before starting a third round - so I'm extremely anxious.

I can't stop crying. I can't go for an early scan for another 2 weeks and don't know how I'm going to get through them if nothing physically happens before.

I just feel in my bones that this one is over too. I really thought this was our little miracle.

I have a very similar history, although I am now much further down the line and very happy with two teens. I really remember all the heartache and utter misery of the IVF and miscarriages at different stages. But if this little one isn’t meant to be, it is better to say goodbye now than later down the line. However - you cannot completely rely on your symptoms as an indicator of pregnancy status, I found they can come and go and sometimes I had none at all. And a natural pregnancy might feel different to an IVF pregnancy with all the extra hormone supplements. Wishing you all the luck xxxx

Thank you, I just wish that if it wasn't going to be viable I would just miscarry now and not have to wait for scans/d&cs/all that hell.

I have only had natural pregnancies with no meds (IVF hasn't resulted in a transfer yet because we had genetic testing and all but one embryo had chromosomal abnormalities and we haven't transferred it yet) and the second pregnancy felt really similar to this: symptoms subsiding at 5/6wks, HCG not rising properly, then an interminable 5 weeks of scans with a heartbeat but not enough growth until it finally died at 11wks and I had a d&c. It was horrific.

I'm just so so so tired.

Really feel for you - it is traumatic going through infertility - the impact is not to be underestimated, during and after. I really hope you achieve motherhood, even if it’s not how you imagined (we used donor sperm in the end) Xxxx

Five weeks is very early, most people don't even have symptoms yet. I know you want to get ahead of any bad news by assuming the worst, but just hold on a couple of weeks longer and get an early scan.

Good luck x

I'm not sure if it is helpful, but in both of my pregnancies my symptoms didn't kick in until 6 or 7 weeks. Definitely go for the early scan to reassure yourself, and see if you can keep busy over the next couple of weeks to try and pass the time quickly.

Can you have an HCG blood test (repeated after 2days) to see if your levels are high enough and rising?

Thanks all. I know it's early to have symptoms but the worry is that I DID have them and now don't. If I hadn't had any ever I might feel better about it?

I don't want to go for the HCG bloods because if it's good news I probably won't believe it until I see a scan, and if it's bad news they can't do anything until after a couple of scans anyway, so to me it feels like more expensive stress.

I guess I just have to wait until I'm 7wks and then book a scan and PRAY.

There are clinics that will scan at 6 weeks, with my last miscarriage I had a scan at 6 weeks and 2 days and they detected the Heartbeat, I think with most internals they will pick one up around 6 weeks. Not sure if that helps. But keeping everything crossed for you xxx

@MeganBistram thanks - I phoned my NHS EPU last night and because of my history they're scanning me next week at 6+2, so only another 6 days to go. The waiting is brutal though. I'm so convinced this is going to go wrong. Can't work out if it's correct instinct or trauma because of what has happened every other time before. So hard.

Oh I’m so sorry. This has happened to me more times than I want to remember. I know it’s not failsafe, but the weeks indicator tests have always predicted a miscarriage for me (not moving or showing behind where I should be). I’ve had NHS scans at 5w as they try and scan me as early as possible as I’ve also had an ectopic. I’m glad they are seeing you sooner, but I know it’s so hard not to worry.

@kranke - annoyingly in my first pregnancy I was measuring bang on in a 7.5wk scan then miscarried at 11, but the baby died just after that first good scan. In my second I was always measuring a week behind and although it grew consistently for 3 weeks it stopped in 5. So depressing. Did your lost symptoms predict miscarriage?

Is it your scan today @Presently83? I’m sorry you’ve had this worry.

Hi, yea the loss of symptoms did accurately predict it unfortunately. How are you doing?

@Kranke I just had a scan at 6+2 and all looks good for now 🤞🤞🤞🤞

Actually measuring ahead at 6+4 with a good strong heartbeat and big gestational sac (in my second Mmc it was too small).

It was utterly nerve-wracking going in for the scan but good news for now. Back for another in 2 weeks so need to hold onto hope for that 🤞🤞🤞🤞

Great news 😊 fingers crossed for this next fortnight 🤞🤞🤞

@Presently83 amazing news, fingers and toes crossed this is your miracle xxx