One year after miscarriage and not pregnant

[Lily1990]

Hi all,

It's the year anniversary since my 12 week scan when I discovered that the baby's heartbeat had stopped at 8.5 weeks, and I had to have 2 D&Cs. I coped pretty well at the time as I'd fallen pregnant quickly and thought it would happen easily again. But a year on and I've had 2 chemical pregnancies but still not pregnant, as I expected I would be by now. I've found out that I have PCOS but don't have any other conditions that they test for in recurrent miscarriage, although haven't had NK cells or sperm DNA fragmentation done.

I'm finding today a real struggle as everything is coming back from last year and how painful and devastating it was. None of my friends and family have remembered which I guess is fine, I don't know if I would have remembered the date a friend lost their baby either.

I guess I'm posting on here for support and to see if anyone has been in the same boat as me and understands what it's like. Any advice or support would be much appreciated.

Thanks so much xx

Hugs for you 🖤
I have PCOS too.
I don’t have useful advice but just to give some hope - I had a mmc and tried for a year and a half with no luck (weirdly I had 2 chemicals as well).
I was under the impression I could no longer carry a child and stopped actively trying…. And I am currently in my third trimester, which was a huge shock but I’m obviously thrilled.
I have no idea how this happened after over a year of timing and fertility gel etc.
Please do something nice for yourself today. Nothing will ever make it easier but please take me as living proof that it can happen 🖤
(When I was going through what you are I found it very hard to hear about people’s similar experiences- if anything in this comes off insensitive I’m really sorry.)

@Stressyfab thank you so much for your kind message ❤️ That’s wonderful to hear that you were in the same boat as me with PCOS and miscarriage/2 chemicals and are now in your third trimester - congratulations! It does give me hope for sure, which is much needed on a difficult day. And your message was incredibly sensitively written, so thank you. Wishing you all the very best for the rest of your pregnancy x