Two miscarriages in a row

[Verconfused]

Hi All

I sadly has a complete miscarriage in November 2022. I was due to go for my week scan scan but started miscarrying at home. Baby had stopped growing at 6 weeks.

I fell pregnant again and was offered an early scan. At the scan, the doctors believed me to be 7 weeks but baby was only measuring 6 weeks. They could not see a heartbeat so called me in a week later. At the subsequent internal scan, my doctor confirmed that sadly there was no heartbeat.

I am going through a mixture of emotions but mostly am numb.

I have opted for the surgical procedure, which will be on Tuesday. My doctor has been wonderful in being very sensitive about what has happened but I’m just petrified now that I’ve had two miscarriages in a short period of time.

I’m not sure where I’m going with this post but have been feeling the need to let this all out.

I am so sorry @Verconfused I also have had two miscarriages in a row (one in August and one more recently in December). It is so confusing as you are told the chances of a second miscarriage are slim but then it happens to you. I haven't had any answers so far and been told it is most likely just bad luck.

I hope your surgery goes as well as can be.

I totally understand how you feel, I had two miscarriages in the row too. I have always been healthy and my first pregnancy went smoothly. My second pregnancy stopped at 8 weeks, I cried my eyes out and kept asking why? I remember being told by the doctor most of the times there was no way to find out what caused it. I thought it could be the stress because we were moving countries at the time. Then again 3rd pregancy stopped at around 9 weeks and by then I couldnt help to think there was something wrong with me and started to think I would never be able to have nore kids. I was miserable. I felt more scared than excited to find out I was pregnant again. Fortunately my 4th went well and I had my beautiful little girl. Please dont stress too much and look after yourself and dont lose faith.

@tulipsunday thank you for your kind words. I am so very sorry to hear of what you have been through. I had some hope that I might be okay with the second pregnancy and now am terrified because it’s happened twice. I’ve been told it’s down to bad luck too. I was given the name of a private consultant who specialises in miscarriages so am thinking of seeing him even though I’ve read that half the people who get investigated won’t have an answer as to why they miscarried. I’m wishing you all the very best!

@emituofo congratulations on your beautiful little girl! That is wonderful news! I hope this doesn’t come across in an insensitive way but your story gives me hope. I am really sorry to hear everything that you went through. I wish none of us even had to go through a loss (or more). I was very healthy prior to my first pregnancy - I exercised 5-6 days a week, ate sensibly and on folic acid since May 2022. On paper, I felt like I was doing all the right things and I’m finding it difficult not knowing why this is happening. I am so happy to hear your beautiful news after what you endured :) Thank you for your reassuring words!

@Verconfused have you seen the Tommy's miscarriage tool www.miscarriagetool.tommys.org I found this reassuring that even after two miscarriages the odds are in favour of the next one being successful.

@emituofo thank you for sharing your story and congratulations on your daughter. I also had an uneventful first pregnancy. Did you do anything differently or find anything was wrong? I am debating whether to get further tests privately.

Im really glad my experience gives you hope, thats the reason I shared it here. I remember I went on google many times trying to find answers and felt hopeless. My kids are 10 and 6 now, happy and healthy. Please dont feel guilty like I did, its not your fault.

Hi @tulipsunday - I did look at the tool and dropped by two per cent after my second miscarriage. This gives me some reassurance. Thanks so much!

Thank you @emituofo. I needed to hear that. I’m been trying not to search on Google but it’s so hard when I’m desperate for answers whilst knowing I won’t necessarily get them.

I had my surgical management procedure on Tuesday hence the delay in my response. The hospital staff were fantastic and so caring. I did cry a couple of times and they helped to put me at ease.

I have been really upset the last couple of days and that may be partly due to my hormones. Hearing your stories and seeing that you have your beautiful babies gives me hope.

I wanted to thank you both for taking the time to reply to me as it has meant a lot to me xxx

I experienced a miscarriage in May 2022 and again in September 2022. It was utterly heartbreaking and I'm so sorry for what your going through as you don't know why it happened. I found out I was pregnant again in December and I'm now 16 weeks and fingers crossed all seems to be going well.
I was told even after a second miscarriage the odds are still in your favour for a healthy pregnancy the next time. I just wanted to give you a bit of hope because I know how difficult it is and trying again is frightening, look after yourself 💐

I'm so sorry for your losses OP. May I ask how old you are? I've lost 3 and have no living children. It can be so hard seeing friends and colleagues carry their pregnancies on when ours don't.

DH and I had multiple tests and all were normal. My egg reserve is higher than average for my age apparently, but that doesn't always help. Have you had any testing yet? The book it starts with an egg is worth a read. I got 2nd hand copy off ebay.

This might be TMI, but if you do sadly MC again, ask for genetic testing of the foetus. It won't change things, but can help with management going forward and sometimes gives some info into the cause. Its jormally not till the 3rd mc, but did they say whether they'd do histology or genetic tests from the surgical procedure?

The miscarriage association is very good, and they have a number to ring if you'd like to speak to someone.

Happy to answer any questions you have OP, and wishing you all the best x

Sorry for your losses OP :( I've also had two in a row now after a normal first pregnancy. What I've done since December is have fertility tests done on myself and my husband and some blood tests to rule out anything obvious that could be causing the miscarriages. Our consultant thinks it's just bad luck for us though ☹️

I hope you get your sticky bean soon!

@Verconfused I've had 2 miscarriages in 6 months, no children. Can i ask who you were directed to see - and how did you get the name? I'm trying to find someone to see, I don't struggle to conceive but not sure how to stay pregnant.

@TommytheSquirrell, I am so sorry for your losses :( it really is heartbreaking. It is fantastic that you are pregnant again! Fingers firmly crossed for you and baby!

I spoke to the Miscarriage Association and they said the same thing about odds being in your favour despite two miscarriages. Thanks for taking out the time to reply and I wish only the best for you! X

@CC4712, thank you for your kind words. I’m 38 so I know that age isn’t in my favour. My husband and I had fertility tests before trying and they all came back fine and I fell pregnant quickly both times, but this entire thing is so difficult. How old are you? It seems that my egg reserve being higher than average hasn’t helped me either.

I am so sorry for your losses. How incredibly painful that must be for you. It’s so hard to get my head around as I have all these questions and thought I was doing the right thing - exercising, eating well, etc. you’re right in that it’s hard to see pregnancy announcements.

Thank you for the book recommendation, which I will look into.

With the surgical management, they will do a histology. I should find out in no more than three weeks times. Thank you for your advice about genetic testing too. I am trying to arm myself with as much knowledge and information as I can.

The Miscarriage Association are wonderful! Tommy’s have been too. I had counselling after my first miscarriage but I don’t think it has helped me as much as speaking to other people who have experienced this.

I really appreciate your time and advice, and am so sorry to hear about everything that you have been through x

@TheBirdintheCave, thank you so much. I am very sorry about your losses too :(

My husband and I had fertility tests before we started trying, and they came back fine. After my first miscarriage, I had a full blood count and thyroid test and those results were fine too. I am seeing our consultant on Wednesday armed with lots of questions. I have been told that for many it really is just bad luck. I wish you both all the very best and hope you have your little bundle of joy soon x

@Whataretheodds, I am very sorry for your losses. It’s just so horrible. I was directed to Mr Vat Vathanan, who specialises in recurrent miscarriages. You might want to look at the gynaecology consultants on your local hospital’s website as their expertise is often listed. You can then search for their name on Google to see if they also do private consultancy. I am the same as you - I fall pregnant but can’t stay pregnant. If you want to know anything more, please feel free to contact me x