I don’t know what’s going on - miscarriage?

[ohnoh]

I recently found out I was pregnant
I think I’d be about 6-7 weeks now if my last period was a real one but I didn’t realise until 8/9 days ago as I didn’t test
I assumed I was stressed and my period was late and thought nothing of it really
prior to this I had very strong symptoms
sore boobs +++, huge cravings and nausea and dizziness. I threw up twice. Etc
very obviously feeling ill unless I was constantly eating cheese and bread and stuff.
all my symptoms suddenly dropped off towards the end of last week and since Saturday I had pink spotting with some red when I wiped but not much, it would come and go. I had cramps on Sunday like bad period pain but no more bleeding.
I then had pain and light bleeding in the middle of the night last night and a small clot. This morning _ no more bleeding at all.
tests are all positive
I haven’t told my partner about any of it yet and almost feel like I can’t if I don’t even know if I am pregnant now or not. My symptoms have completely gone.
I can’t get checked in the early pregnancy unit yet because of nurses strikes it will take a few days before I can go and be seen.
I am driving myself a bit nuts trying to work out if I am pregnant or not. I wish I’d done a digital test so I could track the Hcg progression but I didn’t want to waste money on it last week. Stupid of me as a private scan for example will be a lot more if I did that and this is stressful.

Hi I’m currently going through a missed miscarriage and have been under the care of the early pregnancy unit. I also had a miscarriage I managed at home a few months ago. My experience is that home tests do not pick up miscarriage straight away as your HCG levels take time to drop down. The only way to know is via a scan or repeated blood tests 48 hours apart to look at your HCG levels. It is difficult not knowing but the EPU are the best people to help. I wish you all the best

Hello, Im so sorry you're going through this.
My last miscarriage happened during a nurse's strike and they still saw me at EPU. Do you know for sure they can't get you checked today/tomorrow? Have you called?

Hi thanks for the replies
yes I called and they won’t see anyone until Wednesday at the earliest
it is difficult not knowing
I have a difficult relationship at the moment and keep thinking I should tell my partner but now I wouldn’t even know what to tell him if that makes sense
i was up in the night for hours in pain though I don’t feel like it’s still there
I have had a chemical pregnancy before but around the time I had my period
I think I also had a mmc in 2021 where I had no period for 11 weeks but had a day of cramps and bleeding (only one day) and positive tests (that I had denial about to start with as I used strip tests from work and they looked funny) but then three weeks later I had negative test and very heavy bleeding suddenly - GP was telling me to go to a&e when I called about my lack of bleeding and negative test but I could not leave work that day
my partner was not very supportive at all but then said he’d have wanted it but he has since believed he is not fertile now due to medical reasons, so I don’t know how this would go anyway we are not in a good place
Could you have just a tiny bit of bleeding over a few days and then lots?
I feel like I should know the answers to these things!

I think probably the pain I had overnight was the worst thing and I did have one clot whereas before it was just light bleeding or pink spotting
I don’t feel like it’s still there
to make it worse I did my last pregnancy test and both squares are blank!! Duff test 🤦‍♀️

I know the period of not knowing is so difficult. My EPU nurse told me that bleeding in pregnancy is different for everyone and can have different outcomes. She said she has seen some women who have bled a tiny amount and lost their baby and others who have bled heavily and throughout the pregnancy and had a successful pregnancy. Personally bleeding has never ended well for me but it has for other women. Can they book you in for a scan?

They won’t even call back until tomorrow
I think I’ll try to go to the walk in service tomorrow but I imagine it might be extra busy 🤦‍♀️ I should know what to do (healthcare) but it’s different when it’s me I’m being so stupid
I was surprised by how painful it was overnight
I have had 2 DC one of them died at around 18 months (years ago) my second is 13 already
I didn’t have any bleeding with them

I am also in a related field and all logic goes out the window as it’s driven by emotion. I hope you manage to speak to them and get some answers today. I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your DC. Wishing you all the best

So I stupidly told DP last night and it didn’t go very well
he says it doesn’t add up and accused me of having an abortion or “taking my own concoction of drugs” to cause the same
he then said maybe I know it is not even his 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️
he went straight to bed
It wasn’t the support I needed

I’ve called the early pregnancy unit and they’ve told me to go to the walk in today so I’ll try to get there in time
I don’t want to know now :( I feel really sad I’m sure it has gone I have had a tiny bit more bleeding and then I had a lot of pain yesterday
I dont think I’ve had enough bleeding for it to be accounted for though it’s just a very little amount but it’s there

So I have bleeding and some clots now
I had a scan at the EPU today and it was in the right place with a heartbeat
But it measured small for dates compared to what I would think at least a week off
so I’m not sure if the bleeding will carry on

I'm so sorry you are going through such a tough time. It doesn't sound like your partner is behaving well at all.

I hope it all goes okay xx

Oh lovely. Your dp sounds like a dick. Maybe you should get rid when you've got chance to deal with that but for now, isn't a heartbeat supposed to be a good sign? I'm 28 weeks and had load and loads of bleeding in this pregnancy. I thought I'd lost it a few times. I know it's really hard to just wait but I think you just need to try and stay calm and hang in there. Hoping for the best for you.

I’m sorry you’re going through this and it’s not made any easier by your partner. Did they mention whether the heartbeat is measuring as it should? I was told the heartbeat was slower than it should be before it stopped so I’m hoping your experience is different. Are they going to re-scan?

Thank you for your replies
she did mention the heart rate and commented it was a little bit slow but I can’t remember what the rate was and I can’t access the report or anything
I was so stunned it had a heartbeat after I was bleeding with clots and had lost all the symptoms I could see it on the screen moving about so I wasn’t listening properly

I had a lot of bleeding last night but today it has stopped again
they want to rescan in two weeks
I’m sure my dates are right and so it is smaller than it should be (my lifestyle has been terrible I worry Ive been drinking and way too much etc) so I am worried I’ve damaged it
my partner knew I was having the scan yesterday but didn’t ask how it went even though I saw him last night he just went to bed
I don’t know what to say

The EPU said to go back if it gets worse
it is getting worse
is there any point in doing that? I’m bleeding and In pain but I’m not sure what going back achieves

This happened to me, sadly it did end in miscarriage about a week or two later. I don't personally think it's a good sign to have strong symptoms, which suddenly stop. This was also the case with me, hideous pregnancy symptoms, but woke up one morning, and all symptoms completely gone, then only light bleeding which got worse over the course of a week or so. I was going in for scans at EPU but only sac and fetal pole were visible

I would go back just to check on heartbeat

I will be really sad if it’s gone
I had such mixed feelings to start with but I feel like I wished it away
oh dear
I’m not thinking rationally!
I can’t see how it can survive I’m bleeding so much now
sorry for TMI

Sorry OP. I imagine EPU will want to support you to monitor you in both circumstances, either if there is still a heartbeat and you’re bleeding or if the pregnancy has passed to make sure nothing is retained. It’s such a difficult time. You can’t blame yourself, most early miscarriages are apparently caused by chromosomal abnormalities.

Just wanted to send some love to you O.P x

Sending a hug, sounds like a diffucult time for you!

Thanks
I have not had a healthy lifestyle though :( I am so stupid I was drinking and social smoking and whatever I did not do dry January at all quite the opposite I have really exposed it to all sorts of bad stuff
I really wanted a baby it would not have been the right time but I’d have really wanted it really
I was so panicking to begin with I was considering not keeping it because of the timing but now I can’t believe I felt that way

Don't blame yourself, it's just one of those awful things that happen IF it has happened. Miscarriages are so common. Try not to get yourself in a state. I hope you can speak to a family member or friend x

I passed a lot of stuff earlier
i think it’s probably gone
I have gone back to the EPU to check because I had such a lot of pain and because I don’t want to wait two weeks not knowing
I am finding it hard not to think what if
I basically wished it away at the start :(
oh well
thank you for your kind words
I think I’ve had a hormonal crash my mood is really low it’s not helping!