Missed miscarriage

[Ttcafterloss]

Hi. For weeks now I have had a ‘threatened miscarriage’ and at multiple stages thought I had lost the baby due to heavy bleeding. I was having weekly scans which showed slow progress but progress nonetheless. Last week the scan showed a heartbeat which I was told was weak, which could be because either it was very early on or it was the baby trying to fight but not being able to and I was told there was a possibility it could stop. I remained hopeful as I have pregnancy symptoms and no bleeding. I went for my scan today and went to the bathroom just before this where I noticed a tiny amount of bleeding which has since stopped. At the scan I was told there was hardly any growth and the heartbeat had stopped. My bleeding also seems to have stopped and I have been given medical management - tablets to take in the morning. Struggling to come to terms with this all, I have been in and out of hospital and a regular at EPU for the last month. Today was my 5th scan. Devastated and dreading the thought of passing the pregnancy tomorrow. I feel comfort knowing the baby is still with me inside but distraught that its heart has stopped. A missed miscarriage seems so cruel - I still feel pregnant and always thought a loss was associated with a heavy bleed. I got past the stage of bleeding and my baby developed a heartbeat so I don’t understand what has happened

[TheBirdintheCave]

Unless they test the embryo it's hard to pinpoint an exact reason but in most instances of miscarriages it's chromosomal unfortunately. I'm sorry for your loss.

I took medication for my first MMC and found it wasn't too bad to deal with. I hope everything goes as smoothly as it can for you.

[Ttcafterloss]

Thank you for your response. I’m sorry you’ve also been through a missed miscarriage. It is difficult to accept especially after having a loss a few months ago and progressing further with this pregnancy. I have just taken my first dose of the medication which is bittersweet because It will become real and I am sure I will feel empty but it also means I can start to move on after so many weeks of panic and not knowing if the pregnancy would progress

[TheBirdintheCave]

@Ttcafterloss Look after yourself. I've had two as well and, like you, my second progressed more than the first which made it that much harder to deal with. Fingers crossed for a rainbow baby for both of us <3

[Ttcafterloss]

Thank you for your kind words. I really hope we do get out rainbow babies soon. Feeling empty after taking the medical management pills yesterday

[2magpie]

Its an awful thing to go through. Ive had 2, most recently being 3 weeks ago.Hope you're doing okay 🌺 you're not alone xx

[ZB86]

I feel like an anomaly and just want to know if anyone has experienced anything similar. I was thrilled to find out I was pregnant on early October. At first midwife appointment at 9 weeks she asked about morning sickness and I said I hadn't had any and she said I must be one of the lucky ones. When I got home I thought, I haven't had any morning sickness and the sore boobs i did have are no longer sore, which made me worry but I hadn't had any bleeding and the things I read online were reassuring. Was dreading the first scan at 12 weeks and my worst fears came true when it was clear they couldn't find a heartbeat. Was told baby appeared to have stopped growing at 6 weeks which was confirmed at a follow up scan. I had medical management just before Christmas, pregnancy test positive 3 weeks later so had 2nd lot of meds mid January, still showing as pregnant 3 weeks later so had MVA 10th Feb (plus another round of meds prior to the procedure which I wasn't aware I'd be having til I was resented with the tablets). 3 weeks later today and pregnancy test is still positive. I feel like an absolute anomaly and can't find any information that feels relevant to me. I'm going back for another scan on Monday but I am just so exhausted and mentally drained from it all and desperate to start trying again. It honestly feels like I'm being tormented. I hope nobody else has been through anything similar but I just wanted to check. Thank you x

[Natpat81]

Hi @ZB86 sorry to hear what you are going through. I just wanted to reach out to say I went through something similar, to know you are not alone. Like you everything took longer than it was supposed to, and I couldn’t find any similar experiences online. I had a MMC last year and the baby stopped growing at 6 weeks in mid-April, and it was end-July when I got my negative test, following 2 lots of medical management and an MVA. I also bled every day (mostly lightly) for 8 weeks following the first lot of medical management.
I hope the EPU are helpful at your scan on Monday. I phoned them many many times and it was good to have somebody to phone but they weren’t really helpful or worried that it was taking so long. When I had my final scan after the negative test the nurse just said it takes some people longer than others.
Are your pregnancy tests getting lighter? I did find this the last 2 weeks which made me feel like things were moving in the right direction, albeit slowly.
its really rubbish that you can’t just move on and start trying again, I feel for you. On the positive side I did fall pregnant again 4 months after the negative test, and now 20 weeks pregnant. I hope you get your negative test soon and you can move on x

[ZB86]

Thank you @Natpat81 . I'm sorry you had to go through something similar but so pleased that you are halfway through your next pregnancy.
The lines have been faint on the mast 3 tests but still there. I genuinely don't know what they're going to do with me next. If they suggest I "let things happen naturally" they may have to restrain me! X

[Winnie14]

Mmc diagnosed at 7w5d. Found out at our scan last week, and was told we can choose from Surgical Management (like a D&C), Medical or wait for it to pass naturally. I chose the surgical option because I can’t take much time off work and thought it would have the quickest recovery time, plus I can’t bear the thought of miscarrying at work. EPU contacted me with appointment times and the surgery was supposed to be today, however, when I went in for my surgery prep yesterday, the nurse told me she didn’t want to do the procedure because she didn’t think I’m far along enough to justify going under GA and I should wait for it to happen at home. I felt confused about how they could just change their mind like that, when I’d already been offered the surgery. Has this happened to anyone else? Due back at work in 3 days so hoping the natural mc starts in full asap so it’s over by then.

[ZB86]

@Winnie14 i'm so sorry for what you are going through. Unfortunately different people told me different things. At one stage I was offered d&c but then they told me the amount of remaining tissue did not warrant the risk of GA (this was after previous interventions had not led to complete removal of the "tissue". I was very upset that I was told different things by different people. The final intervention I had was a hysteroscopy but I'm not sure if this would be offered as a first line intervention. I'm not sure what you do for work but unless it will help you to move forward being busy and distracted please focus on your recovery you need time to recover both physically and emotionally x

[Winnie14]

@ZB86 thank you for your reply. You are absolutely right, you can be told lots of different, conflicting things and this can add to the upset that you are already experiencing. The day after my post above, they invited me back for a scan and told me that I would in fact have surgery the following day. On the way to the hospital for ERPC I began to experience strong pains, about a minute apart, and passed lots of tissue. I think I must have been about to MC naturally, but when I arrived I decided to go ahead with surgery and I’m glad I did as it really reduced the pain and bleeding. I had one day at home and went back to work the following day. I’m a teacher, and I had instinctively asked for the bare minimum time off. One week on, I think that being busy at work has helped in some ways, but if it happens again I will put myself first and ask for a bit more leave.

I am sorry to hear that you experienced complications with leftover tissue and that you had to have a hysteroscopy, which I have heard can be really uncomfortable. It sounds like a horribly drawn-out experience and I hope that you are recovered now. X

[ZB86]

@Winnie14 I'm sorry for what you have been through and hope you have lots of love and support. Thank you for your kind comments x

[Zazii]

I am sorry for your loss. I had similar experience last week, tiny bit of blood right before the ultrasound, otherwise all good. When I was told there was no heartbeat, I asked if his/her could be started again, I still cry now writing about it. A missed miscarriage is heartbreaking, we don't know when and how it happened. I wish you every strength 🍀