Success stories after 4 miscarriages

[JLB234]

Hi all,

Unfortunately, I lost my 4th pregnancy before 12 weeks last week. I’ve had all of the NHS testing done which has come back normal but they’re sending the baby away for the first time for karotyping.

I was really just wondering if anyone had any success stories of getting pregnant after 4 miscarriages? I’m absolutely numb and just feel so hopeless. I feel that I’ll never be a Mam.

I’m nearly 31 and I know I’m probably being stupid but I just feel that time is slipping away from me. Any positive stories would be gratefully received.

Thanks so much in advance,

Jenny

I’m so sorry for your loss.

I had 3 miscarriages (2 early and 1 missed at 12 weeks). It’s utterly shit.

But mine weren’t in succession (had DS1 after my first miscarriage). I struggled hugely to conceive at all for several years after DS1 and the 2 later miscarriages were after fertility treatment and then treatment for endometriosis.

DS2 came completely out of the blue just as I was about to have yet more exploratory surgery. I was sure I’d lose him but he clung in there and is now 7. I still can’t believe it sometimes.

The losses were the hardest thing I’ve ever been through. You’re still young. Give yourself time to grieve (I didn’t and it caused me some mental health issues when I hit menopause).

Best wishes

Me hopefully. I have two kids. Then I had 4 miscarriages in a row and now I'm pregnant again and I'm nearly 15 weeks.

I was told just incredibly bad luck. I'm so sorry. Its so hard to bare. There are some tests that they can do to check it's not a blood clotting issue I think. I remember getting 8 vials of blood taken for some kind of test like this. If it happens again you can take the fetus to get tested for chromosomal abnormalities too. I did this twice but both times were inconclusive and tbh I'd have been more upset of they'd said there was nothing wrong.

Good luck. 31 is still very young!

Hey lovely. Sorry for your losses.
I had two MMCs and 2CPs and then got pregnant with my son who is now 17 months. Mine is a rather long story but the NHS didn't identify any issues so for me it was just a case of waiting for a good egg. (I think my body implants all the embryos regardless of quality so I have a higher miscarriage rate but this is just a theory in the early stages of research)

My mother lost at least 5 pregnancies before I was born, possibly more. She was roughly 30-33 at the time. I believe that I would have been their "last try", but ended up with a sister (not certain if there was another miscarriage in between us). Very tough for you but fingers crossed and best wishes.

Hi,

I've not had 4 but I had 3 in a row and then went on to have my healthy DS. Have you looked into low progesterone, NK cells and autoimmune issues? All my NHS tests were clear as well, but I had prednisolone treatment (privately) which I believe is the reason my 4th pregnancy was healthy. I never had any tests so I don't know for sure, although these can be done privately.

I'd also recommend a book called 'it starts with the egg', which has specific chapters in it for you and your partner.

Wishing you all the best, it really is a shit place to be in. Feel free to PM me if you have any questions x

I had one early MC and three mmc's all at 37 years old. (Each one around 11 weeks)

I was a private patient at the time so tests were conducted to check why pretty early and it was finally discovered I had a luteal phase problem where the uterine lining was reducing prior to my period rather than increasing meaning the embryo struggles to implant. (Always wondered why my periods were so.light.😃)

My obstetrician arranged for me to have Metrodin injections each morning until the egg was the correct size at which time I was injected to release the egg and then we had to DTD over the next 42 hours. Once I was pregnant I was given further injections each week for 12 weeks to keep the pregnancy viable.

This was 1994 and my gorgeous DD was finally delivered that year when I was 38.

Honestly, OP, you have loads of time on your side and investigations/treatments are so much more advanced these days. 👍

I had 4 miscarriages and now have a beautiful 8 month old girl sitting on my lap. I had gone to a private doctor who put me on all kinds of things but nothing worked, until I went down the NHS route at St. Mary's Hospital in Paddington, London. They specialise in recurrent miscarriages and they did all the testing and found that I needed Aspirin 150mg a day during pregnancy due to a high clotting factor. They have developed this protocol which is maybe why the private doctor had not tried it (he had me on a lower dose Aspirin which was clearly not enough). The thing they test for at St. Mary's is TEG (thromboelastogram).

It's not easy what your going through and I remember feeling helpless, alone, angry, unlucky, upset and a million other emotions, but I always tried to stay hopeful. And I think that is what kept me going. Never give up. Everything will work out and will happen at the right time, even if that doesn't feel right at this time. You are still so young and have plenty of time. Late 30s is when you might start to feel like time is running out, but certainly not now.

I think what also helped me at the time was I took a break from it all. I went on holiday, tried to forget about trying to conceive and tests etc, took a break, recovered mentally, physically and emotionally, and then started again. That was one of the best advice I took from another private doctor that I went to see. Stress doesn't help.

Hope this helps you see the light at the end of the tunnel, because there is definitely light at the end of the tunnel for you!

'Have faith in your dreams and someday
Your rainbow will come smiling through
No matter how your heart is grieving
If you keep on believing
The dream that you wish will come true' - Cinderalla