SMM Questions?

[beanhangingaround]

Hi everyone,

Unfortunately my husband and I found out at 10 weeks that we’d suffered a missed miscarriage and the baby’s heart had stopped at 8 weeks. We’re booked for an SMM under general anaesthetic in 2 days.

I’ve not ever been under general and I’m feeling quite anxious about the situation. How long were you out for? Did you wake up in pain?

Can anyone tell me if they were allowed a visitor before/after the op? My husband wants to be there as much as possible, he’s finding the whole process quite hard too and feeling helpless.

Would appreciate any reassurance or advice

x

Hi @beanhangingaround I'm so sorry to hear of your MMC. I had one at the 12 week scan on 28th December and was in for surgery on the 29th. The hospital were very sensitive and allowed my partner to be with me as much as possible. He had to leave me when I did the walk to theatre, and he wasn't there when I woke up which I found hard. Once I was in recovery they gave me my phone but he wasn't allowed in. I went into theatre about 8.40 and woke up about 10. I was bleeding a bit and had cramps but it stopped pretty quickly. I just felt a bit tender but otherwise ok. The whole process was quick and for me much better than the medical management route. My partner just waited in the coffee shop and met me as soon as I was dressed and out. I have to say, considering what was happening it was all done with as little trauma as possible. It was my first time with GA too and was totally fine xx

@Enigma85 Sorry to hear it’s happened to you too, I hope you and your partner are doing okay? Thank you for your reassurance here, can I ask how long it was after you woke up that you were allowed to leave? I elected for surgical management under GA because it sounds like the least traumatic route, but of course will just be wanting to get home as soon as it’s safe to do so xx

It was all really quick, I woke up at 10 and had a couple of cups of water and was taken to recovery. At 10.45 I was dressed and up and at 11.50 I was on my way home but I had to wait ages to be discharged as there was a problem with the system. I reckon without that I could've been leaving an hour after waking up. Obviously everyone's different, but I just wanted to get home. We're doing better now we're in the second week, last week was tough. They signed me off for two weeks and my partner took a few days off too, I found it hard when he went back to work but am getting better every day xx

I hope that’s the case for me too, I just want to go in and out as soon as I can, the hospital have been good so far so fingers crossed. I’m glad to hear things are slowly getting better for you, I know you can’t put a timeline on grief but I hope that you’re both able to start healing soon. ❤️ x

Sorry for your loss ❤️ I had SMM in mid December, for a late missed miscarriage, and the surgery was the least traumatic part of the whole experience - it was really fine. Had to go in for 7am, sit in a little ‘cubicle’ (curtains not walls) with a comfy chair while they do all the pre op checks and chats. Went down to surgery late morning but it will depend where you are on the list. The staff were all very reassuring, and the anaesthetic was fine - they chat to you as you go under. Then seconds later you’re coming round. I think it took about 20 mins in total. Hardly any pain - a bit sore but they keep you dosed up as you need. Had to spend a few hours in recovery, eat and drink something and wait for a bed in the discharge ward. My husband came to pick me up about 6.30pm, when they gave the ok. He wasn’t allowed in at all unfortunately, only to drop me off and pick me up. Good luck xx