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Amanda95 · 08/01/2023 20:49

Hi guys i previously had 2 miscarriages and then 2 beautifully daughters. My youngest is 11months im still bf so i have irrgular periods atm. On saturday 7th jan i found out i was pregnant which was very unexpected as i am taking birth control anyway me and my partner were really happy i randomly decided to do a test as i had started getting pregnancy symptoms vomiting etc. Anyway that joy was short lived we found out at 6am and at 10am i started to get spotting.

Starting of as brown spotting and then went on to be light pink which i thought maybe its just spotting and nothing major i had no pain etc and pregnancy test was dark.

By evening i was full on bleeding so i rang the early pregnancy unit to be told that without a refferal from the docter they were unable to check me. It being the weekend the gp surgery shut i rang out of hours and was told the docter would ring me back in the next 2 hours and after asking my symptoms etc i was advised not to go to a&e because i wasnt "bleeding that heavy"

Well i stayed up most of the night waiting for a phone call by 4am i was feeling so weak i was unable to sleep i had to change into an adult diaper as the bleeding was getting so heavy i have heavy periods but this was way more so i decided to ring out of hours again to which i was told to wait for a docters call. I then fell asleep and when i woke up at 9am sorted childcare for my daughters and i decided to just go to a&e i was there for 1 hour

The nurse didnt even bother to check my urine sample she didnt check my blood pressure nothing she just said its most likely a miscarriage and to go home and do a test after 2 weeks and if its still positive to then see my gp to which i just started crying i was at this point really tired unable to walk properly i told her i felt really weak and i was loosing so much blood she said i wasnt loosing enough i feel like she was being so judgemental she asked me why i got pregnant when i have 11month old and if this is what i had expected she then called a docter and he suggested a blood transfusion and told her to check my blood pressure to which she said weakness could be low iron and that is a gp problem and told the docter i had my "hands full with a toddler and infant" and i am breastfeeding so obv i would be tired. Well at that point i didnt even bother fighting i just feel so let down i just cried and left and now im at home and i feel awful.

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Amanda95 · 08/01/2023 20:55

Hi an update from me i just feel so scared im starting to get cramps and the bleeding has now slowed down. I have such bad anxiety and have no idea whats going on. I feel let down by everyone.

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TheShellBeach · 08/01/2023 22:10

Hello. It sounds very upsetting. I'm so sorry you're going through this.
Can I ask why you left when the doctor said you needed a blood transfusion? Was it because the nurse was so horrible to you? Some of them are dreadful.

Amanda95 · 08/01/2023 22:17

Oh i didnt make it clear he agreed with the nurse and told me to come back if it got worse or i started to have severe pains. I was told to go home as there wasnt anything else they could do.

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She333 · 08/01/2023 22:28

Sorry you're going through this. At such a difficult time to be fobbed off by medical professionals is not what you need. Advice from Tommy's is if you're soaking through a pad an hour, seek urgent help.

If that's the case, call your EPU back. Make a nuisance of yourself if necessary.

TheShellBeach · 08/01/2023 22:37

I'm not surprised you feel let down by everyone.
Do go back if you soak a pad an hour or have bad pain.
Ring your GP in the morning and get an emergency referral to EPU.

ttcttc · 08/01/2023 22:38

I had similar. I don't think there's much then can do when we're so early so they don't - nhs is so far stretched there's no room for compassion. I had no idea what was happening and miscarried at home

TheShellBeach · 08/01/2023 22:40

And complain to the hospital about that nurse.
You really need a scan, especially as you don't know how many weeks you are.
Losing a baby is very sad.

Amanda95 · 09/01/2023 15:33

An update i am back at the hospital currently at the early pregnancy unit iv had a scan and they have confirmed its an ectopic pregnancy im actually 13 weeks, im so glad i posted this thank you for all your responses and pushing me to go back. Please keep me in your prayers im such an emotional wreck at the moment 😔

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TheShellBeach · 09/01/2023 15:54

Amanda95 · 09/01/2023 15:33

An update i am back at the hospital currently at the early pregnancy unit iv had a scan and they have confirmed its an ectopic pregnancy im actually 13 weeks, im so glad i posted this thank you for all your responses and pushing me to go back. Please keep me in your prayers im such an emotional wreck at the moment 😔

Oh OP - how awful. I am very sorry about this.
I know how devastating a miscarriage can be. The fact that you were sent home from A & E without their diagnosing an ectopic pregnancy is terrible.

Please, please, when you've recovered, make a complaint. You could have had a ruptured ectopic and died. The nurse and doctor who saw you yesterday need to know that their practice was unsafe.

I hope you start to feel better soon. This kind of thing makes me angry. You went to hospital for help and they as good as told you to suck it up and go home.

Are you having surgery?

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Amanda95 · 09/01/2023 15:58

Im waiting on a docter to tell me what my options are but it will most likely be surgery im so nervous, i will definetly be making a complaint i hope this doesnt ever happen to anyone else. Just so glad i came in

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TheShellBeach · 09/01/2023 16:00

Amanda95 · 09/01/2023 15:58

Im waiting on a docter to tell me what my options are but it will most likely be surgery im so nervous, i will definetly be making a complaint i hope this doesnt ever happen to anyone else. Just so glad i came in

I'm glad you went back, too.
Women are always being fobbed off like this. It's not on.

I'm not surprised you're nervous. Please let us know how you get on.

TheShellBeach · 10/01/2023 17:41

How are things, OP?

Moonchild41 · 10/01/2023 21:21

Hi I miscarried my baby at 7 weeks 1 day been almost 8 weeks and no period is this normal? Xx

TheShellBeach · 10/01/2023 21:37

Moonchild41 · 10/01/2023 21:21

Hi I miscarried my baby at 7 weeks 1 day been almost 8 weeks and no period is this normal? Xx

I'm so sorry. That's very sad.

It can take a few weeks for your cycles to return to normal.

Moonchild41 · 11/01/2023 07:23

Thankyou we are having sex but had 2 negative test xx

Amanda95 · 11/01/2023 08:56

I had keyhole surgery on tuesday. Has anyone else had it? Dont know what to expect with recovery but at the moment i feel really tired and dizzy. Is dizziness normal? I havent had much bleeding since and the pain isnt as bad. My husband has taken 2 weeks of work so he is helping around the house and letting me sleep. To be honest i cant wait to go back to a normal routine and its making me feel even more guilty for wanting that.

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She333 · 11/01/2023 09:19

It might be normal, but do double check any side effects of medication they've given you. I was given an antibiotic beginning with M and it made me really groggy and confused, which apparently I should have spoken to the Dr about.

Hope you recover quickly x

TheShellBeach · 11/01/2023 19:37

Amanda95 · 11/01/2023 08:56

I had keyhole surgery on tuesday. Has anyone else had it? Dont know what to expect with recovery but at the moment i feel really tired and dizzy. Is dizziness normal? I havent had much bleeding since and the pain isnt as bad. My husband has taken 2 weeks of work so he is helping around the house and letting me sleep. To be honest i cant wait to go back to a normal routine and its making me feel even more guilty for wanting that.

There is no right and wrong as far as guilt is concerned, OP.

I think the whole experience and the blood loss will be what's probably causing your dizziness. I'm glad your DH is able to look after you while you recover.

anotherscroller · 11/01/2023 19:43

My sister had it. She needed a month off work to rest and a lot of painkillers. But it’s a great surgery because it heals quite quickly compared to more invasive methods.
sending my thoughts. Sounds like you need a big rest. My condolences for the loss of your baby, I’m so sorry.

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