Traumatic ectopic

[Confusedmamatoo]

I discovered quiet early in December I was expecting after a miscarriage the moth prior, Already in a lot of shock as this was so soon after our loss.

After wrapping our heads around it the excitement set in until a few nights ago I started to experience some pain, This pain lasted on and off a few days thinking it could be trapped wind until I couldn’t take anymore and went to a&e from 111’s advice.

After arriving I was told it was possible ectopic which was later confirmed the morning after, I was then rushed down to surgery to have my tube and baby removed I lost a lot of blood and now I’m home and so angry and confused as to what’s just happened to me!

Im left in all this pain but feel so numb my DP has been amazing I just feel so lost, don’t really know what I’m looking for just something other than my own head!

I had the same back in October. Im still traumatised to this day. Nothing i will say will make you feel any better but just to say I know how you feel and here to talk xx

So sorry you had to experience that. Sounds like a scary time for you and your partner. I'm experiencing the same feeling just now. I started a medically induced miscarriage this morning after a scan confirmed our pregnancy stopped developing. I'm currently jumping between anger, guilt and resentment as it seems everything I see on tv/social media is people expecting. I think all emotions are valid. I hope you start feeling better soon x

I’m so sorry you went through the same, It’s so quick and definite when it happens I’m still in shock, recovering slowly but can’t get over the anger! I hope you’re ok, It’s so hard I was hoping a few days but I can’t stop thinking about it xx

I’m so sorry for your loss, It’s even harder waiting and not knowing, I feel your pain on seeing everyone pregnant. I fell pregnant a couple of weeks after my best friend and her pregnancy is doing amazing I’m left, I am so happy for her though she’s been Ttc for years! Although found im trying to be more enthusiastic about her baby xx

I know. They was like ‘sorry its ectopic’ and thats the end of it . It will take a lot of time i think. At first i felt totally consumed and haunted by it all .still do some days . Theres always a little niggle at the back of mind and a day doesnt go by when i dont think about it . But i am slowly starting to feel better. You will too soon. I find it helps talking on here. One lady that had also had an ectopic said something that stayed with me - ‘ if she didnt have that ectopic she wouldn’t have the baby she has today’ hopefully it will be a distant memory for us both soon xxx

It’s awful hearing it isn’t it, They then leave you with the news i couldn’t have my partner with me because the ward was closed for visitors so I had to walk to tell him whilst people were around it was appalling! I really hope so, it such a horrible situation, And that really is beautiful isn’t it I hope this is the same for us! Although Ttc is daunting now I’m not sure how long to wait if at all xx

Really awful they wouldn’t let your partner in with you ?! I also find it really scary that you said you carried on with the pain for a few days! The outcome could have been very different! It was very instant for me .. the pain was crippling. I just about made it to a and e before I vomited in the middle of it then practically passed out. It all became a blur just have vague memories of the nurses and husband grabbing my face and telling me to stay awake and i was apparently going grey. They said wait for 2 normal cycles if you didnt have the drug but i think you can start whenever tbh. I guess whenever you feel mentally and physically ready . Frustrating thing is it took me 8 months to fall pregnant with the ectopic . Im terrified there’s something wrong and it wont happen at all . Lets keep eachother updated xx

He was allowed through to the a&e department until they rushed me through to gynae ward and then had to leave so we tried keeping in contact through phone but with the pain I was in I just wanted to sleep, I know the doctor said I was so lucky as the bleed was huge and it could have been fatal! I think I was in such shock that I just didn’t get the severity until I was in emergency surgery an hour after the scan! I think I had a high pain threshold and maybe to some extent in denial the baby wasn’t ok! That sounds so scary! I’m so glad they allowed your husband in, the support is much needed. I’m not sure how long I’ll wait I want to start straight away but again I don’t want to go through this again, My partner is just whenever your ready we will try but I’ve told him if anything happens next time I’m done, I will absolutely keep you updated! It’s been nice to be able to have someone who’s been through the horrible experience! Xx

I am the same . I cant put myself or my husband through that again. They also say if youve had one theres more chance of having another. It all just makes me want to scream. Chat soon ! X