This isn’t related to your current situation however it reminded me of my experience at the clinic.
I decided to have IUI at Manchester Fertility and since the whole experience was new for my partner and I, we obviously had many questions and I was very apprehensive to say the least. Even after waiting a few months to start treatment and getting loads of information, it wasn’t until I was in the room to get inseminated that the question of medication popped up.
you see going to a clinic and self paying is extremely expensive and you pay for whatever you can afford at that time along with what you think is right for you. After all my tests, I was found to have no fertility issues and so didn’t need to pay extra for any medications to aid pregnancy so was able to pay for 3 natural cycles. It occurred to us however that if the first and second cycle didn’t work, we would only be left with one cycle and no reason why it wasn’t working out.
You are unable to go into the whole situation re question the cycle be done with treatment just because that’s what you would like so asking for any medication without approval usually gets denied however we did ask the nurse if that cycle fails and possibly the next one also if we could opt into having a medicated cycle the last time.
The nurse explained to me that they had people coming in requesting just that, no actual medical reason as to why they will need said medication but adamant they want to at least try it once, so ultimately they pay extra for it to be used on one cycle and are really disappointed it didn’t work out! She explained that one med they try to get is meant to simulate ovulation, but the women have no issue with regular ovulation but in their mind this is the answer. So they are given the medication even though they are already to ovulate and she admitted she believed some of them done it not to try and get pregnant in general but to increase the chances of multiples or even double ovulation. She said she had explained to these people that in a healthy person that will otherwise ovulate naturally, the medication doesn’t increase the chances of double ovulation or even multiples since a completely different medication is used for that over a longer course of time to ripen more than one follicle for release.
the point is, as much as going private enables you to get a more in depth look at whatever your issue may be, and quicker, you don’t have the ability to choose to have a specific treatment or medication without it being approved by them which is the same as the NHS. If they say no and wait then that’s what will have to happen. Unfortunately some places will give you the requested medication knowing it won’t help even after explaining that to the people simply because it will make them some extra money and that’s what the patient wanted, but ultimately your the one left out of pocket and no better off than you started.
If you want, get the issue explored via private clinic and see if they can offer a treatment plan for you but don’t go in with a specific mindset that you want x y and z thinking it will sort the issue when your unsure of the issue.
Lastly be prepared to get told that there in fact is nothing that can be done and you are just unable to carry a pregnancy to term full stop, because sometimes this is the reality and coming to that realisation is a lot harder when you assumed something can always be done unfortunately, but hopefully that’s not your case and you just need some investigation and the right treatment path.
Good luck hun and I’m sorry for your losses but hopefully you find a resolve soon.