TTC after miscarriage

[chazS]

Hi everyone (1st time poster and a long one so please bare with me) I have been with my now husband for over 15 years and until recently had never gotten pregnant. He is now 35 and I am 33. It was a miracle when in September this year we found out we were 6 00weeks pregnant! I had almost faced facts that it just wasn't meant to be. The day after we found out i started to bleed and we were devastated it ended in a miscaridge (confirmed via hospital scans/ ultrasound ect).

Since then, I have been using clear blue moniter to track my fertility and had a peak (fertile) reading in October, again in November but not this cycle in December.

I'm devastated we are no longer pregnant and haven't fallen again I think I'm driving myself insane but I just can't help it it's all I've ever wanted! (Currently sat in tears writing this) spending hours every night trolling these posts, endless pregnancy tests just in case and a big empty hole inside of me.

Anyway, I guess I'm looking for some positivity, is there anyone out there who has been In a similar situation?

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I am so sorry for your loss. It's crushing. First things first, it's not your fault. It's easier to lose oneself in could've and/or should've.You can/wil get pregnant again.

Are you under any time pressure to get pregnant very quickly? What is your health status at the moment? How is your partner dealing with the loss?
Answers to those questions can help you take a (necessary) step back from the intensity of the situation and release some of the pressures you are putting yourself under. Remember, your body releases stress-related biomolecules which can interfere with your fertility if you are feeling anxious.
I would suggest taking charge of what you can control in the first instance: your health.
Best of luck!

We tried for two years. I had one miscarriage and was absolutely devastated. Then a second, then a third, then a fourth. I was older than you when all this happened. Got pregnant again, I couldn’t get excited, we’d given up trying for a while, got the drunkest I’d ever been before the positive test. Things started to stick, had scans, still worried it would be non viable, thought later scans would show severe disabilities etc., didn’t really tell anyone until 20w. I’m now sat having a NYE cocktail whilst our little one is banging drums while his dad is playing piano. I’ve had a subsequent ectopic since, and we’ll try again soon, but happy with my lot as never thought this would happen. Hang in there, you have nearly 15yrs left of trying. Make time for yourself and your partner. There is definitely lots of hope!! Good luck on your journey and make sure you carve out some time for you and your partner whilst you can!x