Trying again after miscarriage

[SR87]

In December 2021, me and my partner decided to try for a baby. I came off the pill, and by 8th February we found out we were pregnant.
Unfortunately at our 12 week scan we had the heartbreaking news that the baby had stopped growing at 7 weeks and we had a missed miscarriage.
That was now 8 months ago, and we have failed to fall pregnant again yet.

It’s starting to consume my every thought that something may be wrong. After getting pregnant so quickly the first time (I had been on the pill for 20 years!) it’s making me worry that something is now wrong. Every month the date rolls around that my period is due and this month it was Christmas Day.

I know 8 months may not so long, but how long have people taken to get pregnant naturally after miscarriage? I am having regular periods and having sex during the ovulation window.

I will be 36 soon and I am concerned my age is starting to go against me.

I literally cannot think of anything else, and no matter how many people tell me to “not stress” and “it wil happen for you” I am struggling to see light at the end of the tunnel right now.

this is my first pregnancy and miscarriage so i can't speak from experience but before i miscarried it took me 14 months to get pregnant (i wasn't actively trying while ovulating but me and my partner would have unprotected sex very often, we weren't preventing pregnancy either) but my sister in law said it took her almost a year to conceive after her miscarriage. i've heard others say they got pregnant right away. i'm so sorry for your loss, much love xx

Hi @SR87

Sorry that you are feeling like this. I had a MMC in May and was hoping like all the stories from other people that I’d be able to conceive again straight away (it had taken 7 months to conceive the first time). Unfortunately I didn’t and like you the longer it went on the harder and more consuming it became.
Fortunately I did finally fall pregnant again after 6 months, I am now 10 weeks but still very anxious until my 12 week scan.
There are a couple of things that you could do - firstly, given your age you could speak to your GP. My GP referred me for fertility investigations after 6 months of trying as I was 40 at the time. You may still be too young, but worth asking. (Also the fertility waiting list was 35 weeks so good to get in there early).
The other thing I did was I found an acupuncture fertility specialist near me. I only actually had two appointments before finding out I was pregnant so unlikely that it contributed, however I found it really helpful to have somebody tell me all the things that I could do/not do to improve my chances and the quality of the eggs. The first appointment there was no acupuncture, it was just lifestyle, diet, supplements etc. When you’re ttc you just feel like things are out of your control but these were all minor changes that I could make within my control to improve my chances, so I felt much more positive afterwards.
Good luck to you x

I know exactly how you feel. We are trying again after our miscarriage and I can't think of anything else. It consumes me. I am constantly checking my calendar, weeing on ovulation sticks, stressing about how much we are having sex. No one knows, I can't tell anyone how it is affecting me but it is. I am so worried that I won't get pregnant and if I ever do I will have another miscarriage. It feels very lonely and I don't want to speak to any of my f&f.
I was thinking about acupuncture and will look into this now.