Hope after 13/14 wk mmc

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We have been ttc dc3 this year. Fell pregnant in summer but had an early miscarriage before 6 weeks. Fell again straight away but last week found out baby had died, thought I was almost 15 weeks but measured over 13 weeks. Had erpc end of last week. It was such a shock after seeing baby fine on several scans, thought we were in the safe zone (I had been to epu because of light spotting around 9 weeks but all was well). Harmony test had shown no problems. EPU did lots of blood tests on me and said pregnancy tissue will be tested, but could take 3 months for the results. They said it’s less than a 1% chance of mc at that stage 😫. I am aware of a uterine polyp (large, at one stage looked around 2.5cm on ultrasound), but they said that would normally not cause such a late loss?. I will now try and get the hysteroscopy I should have had before pregnancy and get it removed if still there.

I’m shocked at how upset I feel, and also feel guilty because I already have 2 dc (6 and 3) and lots of women go through this with no living dc…. Part of me thinks I should be happy with what I have, but a huge part wants to keep trying. Can anyone relate? Has anyone been through similar and gone on to have a successful pregnancy? I also had an early mc between dc1 and 2.

Hi
I had a miscarriage at 14 weeks after good scan photos and positive 12 week scan. I also had other children. I had medical management and no cause was identified for the miscarriage. It was devastating. 6 months later I was pregnant again and went on to have a beautiful baby who is now a gorgeous little girl. To further reassure you I was in my 40’s when this happened and still went on to have a successful pregnancy. Look after yourself, the grief I felt after the miscarriage was immense and even though I wanted to be pregnant right away as I thought it was the only thing that would help, the6 months helped me to heal and get my body ready for pregnancy Take care and feel free to dm if I can help at all.

Thank you so much for your words. So sorry for your loss, and congratulations on your little girl. It helps to hear another’s experience. Still feeling very tearful, and useless in the run up to Xmas! DH is being great with our kids. Even though all I can think about is being pregnant again, I definitely understand what you say about waiting a bit, and I want to wait and see what the test results say, get healthy etc.