Confused if miscarrying or not

[Willowfox]

Hi, sorry for the long post this is my first.

I had a scan last Wednesday at 8 weeks and 5 days and sadly was told there was no heartbeat. The nurse told me that it would have happened in the last 24hrs & set me up for an appointment at the hospital 2 days later. I had another scan then confirming again that there is no heartbeat so I gave up any hope. I had a chat with the doctor right after the scan at the hospital and she was so unpleasant trying to make jokes and laughing but not in a trying to comfort me way at all. My partner asked if we should give up all hope and just accept the loss of the baby but she told us no. She said don’t be giving up hope at all and that there is still a chance but asked me how I would like to go about getting rid of the fetus in the next sentence. Sorry if this post comes off hard to read I’m just so confused now with the doctor telling me that. I’ve another appointment Friday to make my decision but I don’t know if they will give me a 3rd scan before I make it. Has anyone else gotten a 3rd scan after being told they are having a missed miscarriage? I have no symptoms whatsoever of a miscarriage

Do you know the crown rump length measurements? That would tell you most of what you need to know.

Did the doctor mean that you shouldn't give up hope of eventually having a live baby? Maybe she didn't mean there was a chance with this one. It doesn't sound like she was very kind or supportive/empathetic.

I agree it sounds like a horrible way to treat a couple whose baby has died.
I am so sorry you're going through this.
There are frequently no symptoms of a miscarriage other than losing some of the signs of pregnancy (the enlarged breasts, for example).
Quite often, women do not even bleed, despite the death of the baby.
You will need to consider whether you want a D & C or medical management (tablets).
Again, I am very sorry this has happened to you.

Unfortunately a missed miscarriage (or silent miscarriage) is named due to the lack of warning signs.

I feel that the doctor misunderstood what your partner meant about hope for this baby.

is there a plan moving forward for you?

i have had two horrific experiences in EPU and missed miscarriages, so you have my sympathy and understanding.